While we are on the topic, I was wondering what the etiquette was for organising your own ? I have a friend who's sister in law in also pregnant and I am 99% sure my friend will Join the 2 baby showers as she is big into sharing occasions. (we share b'day's every year even when I dont want to)

the point is I don't want to share the shower with the sis in law, a few reasons but I just don't want to. can I arrange my own shower? or is that wrong etiquette.

Can't I just say my mother and I are organising it ?

She also wants to "share" a photo day at a friends photographic studio and I dont want to do that either as the sis in law is like a size 8 and pregnant and I am a 18 and I don't want to bare all infront of a skinny minny.

sigh... silly things I know.. but still