What did you all do with regard to these events? Did you have one? Flatly refuse because you didn't want people to be expected to give gifts? Try to refuse one but get bullied into it by your mother and SIL?
My SIL is refusing, because of the gift thing, but we so madly want to have one for her. An idea that we have had is to suggest that guests make a charity donation (to Bonnie Babes or the Children's Hospital or something) instead of bringing gifts. We're from a bit of a party crowd, so any excuse'll do! And SIL can drive us home!
Thoughts?