Thanks so much Dianne, csab and Holly, for your replies.

If we found out there was a trisomy before 14 weeks, I believe we would terminate. So for me, there is a reason to do the CVS. And of course, if nothing is wrong, WOW what a relief and I can relax.

However if we found out after that (e.g. if we had an amnio instead), I would definately not terminate, I would carry to term. So having an amnio isn't probably something I would do.

The guy who will do the CVS is meant to be SUPER experienced, and apparently the risk really reduces with the experience of the practitioner?

Grrrrr bloody DH is now saying "oh we should just leave it" BUT this is only cos he found out it costs $1200 and he is a total tight arse. GRRRR I told him the cost has no impact on my decision, so he has shut up quickly!

Dianne do you mind if I ask you a more specific question? Bearing in mind that I have no moral feelings against later termination. I am wondering if you ended Emmanuel's pregnancy, or if it was a natural miscarriage? Because I keep thinking, as well as the risk of miscarriage from the CVS, even if we didn't have it, I could miscarry later with a trisomy 13 right? PLEASE do not feel obliged to answer *heart*

Muppity - Yes this is the question that keeps coming up... BUT even if we found out later, and were not going to terminate, I actually would prefer to know, so I was prepared for the ill baby etc. and was mentally prepared to lose the baby in the first year...