I'm not surprised to be honest, it was an unbelievably traumatic pregnancy and your reaction sounds perfectly normal. But I think you have to start making a time and space to deal with it... very gradually though, I wouldn't rush it. Can you find a counsellor or midwife who specialises in pregnancy loss or birth trauma, someone who would fully understand what you went through, that you could debrief with? Maybe once a week at first while DD1 is at daycare. Just so that if it does threaten to overwhelm you, you know that you have that time set aside to talk about it, cry about it, deal with it, with someone who can understand. DH could come with you if and when he needs to, because I am sure it was hard on him too. Maybe when you're feeling strong enough you can put in a complaint about the OB who made the comment about termination because that was just sooooo out of line. But that is what I would suggest as a place to start.... Kelly might be able to recommend someone locally.
What you're feeling is totally understandable, and I think if you want to have another baby in the future (and even if you decide you don't) it would help you to heal.
Thinking of you xoxoxox
the biggest hugs babe, u have done such a fantastic job, no1 expects u to have come out of it emotionally unscathed. u def need to deal with it but dont rush urself. i cant offer u any other advice, sorry hun. just big hugs xxx
Reply With Quotethe biggest hugs babe, u have done such a fantastic job, no1 expects u to have come out of it emotionally unscathed. u def need to deal with it but dont rush urself. i cant offer u any other advice, sorry hun. just big hugs xxx
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because that was just sooooo out of line. But that is what I would suggest as a place to start.... Kelly might be able to recommend someone locally.
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