LOL, Taz, maybe we could start buying cow-bells for our DHs so the neighbours could complain about something. Oh, I just want to see DH's face when I suggest that to him!

TBH, I can't think of ONE woman who likes her body, myself included, and I'm the body-happiest person I know. There's always something to change! 80kg is about 12-13 stone, which isn't all that heavy... my mum is about 13-14 stone and she's no way fat. If you need encouragement, this is another great way toddlers can help - a few rounds of "head, shoulders, knees and toes" or any other dancing activity that makes you move and touch things (even just telling a story where you all have to run to the door... then to the window...) will make them beg for that thing over and over again to help you do it! I learnt that the hard way running Anchor Boys, a gang of 5-year-olds who want you to run about with them soon gets you fit!

Will your brother even notice your weight? My DH, who sees me naked (sometimes), doesn't notice a change of 5kg, men don't notice and don't think about it. Harsh, but true!

Could you do an airbrush thing, where you stick your head on a skinny model, to give you some encouragement?

BTW, from the skinny perspective, it's just as bad. "Oooh, I don't know where you put it" or "you'll get fat one day, I used to be skinny too" comments annoy me very much, especially as I know how much I work out to stay this way! Sorry, that's not very helpful, but comments on size are always rude, I've yet to hear anyone but my husband say something nice about my figure and even close friends I'd offer to help with going out exercising with them would make "how do you do it" comments about my size. Well, if they did my exercises they could do it too!

Also, when I bake cakes I make sure I have one particular tape playing, it's full of dancing tunes so I just dance around the kitchen with my mixing bowl in my arms stirring away. I started this after having a shower radio tuned to club hits in a morning to wake me up and stop me taking half an hour to wash myself and ended up grooving in the bathroom. Same as with the dusting or vacuuming - I set myself time limits. Not so that it's exercise, just so that I aren't cleaning all morning. If I wasn't in a routine to do yoga and aerobics I wouldn't be able to get into one - I've had to build it up very slowly so that it becomes second nature to me. So at first it would be a few sit-ups in front of the TV (just while waiting for coffee to cool down enough to drink it), then sit-ups and touching toes, then I added the stretches... now I do 30-40 minutes, including a warm-up, without thinking about it. I think this would be good for you too - have five minutes of playing stretches with your children at, say 2pm, then they'll encourage you to keep it up until you realise that you're doing it even when they aren't there.

There's also a big difference between "fat and frumpy" and "volumptuous and attractive" - quite often it's just a case of the level of fitness, not the level of fat. So you might not have to exercise too much to be happier!

Also, have you checked out the BB Fat Fighters gang in the health and fitness forums chatter? I should have thought of those earlier, I know they're great at motivating each other. And they don't write huge essays like I do either, so another bonus LOL.