The way i see it is if you didnt invite them over then you shouldnt have to run around after them, you are about to have a baby dont these people realise that, its stressful enough when its just you and your partner there with you worrying if you are prepared for the arrival of your bub. I think its bad manners for all the people to come stay with you, you really need all the rest you can get until bubs is here. You really need to sit DP and explain it to him and make him listen, as for his friend i would be telling him to make his own dinner or go elsewhere.
ETA- I agree totally with Maz turn into a crazy pregnant lady and if they dont like it they can stay somewhere else!!
MsJames I don't blame you for needing a vent, that sounds like a terrible situation! I can't really think of any new adive to offer you, I think the ladies above have hit the nail on the head. It's your house, you get to call the shots. This is such a special time in your life and you should be able to do it your way and feel as comfortable as possible in your own house. Just because they are staying in your house doesn't mean you have to be their maid, if they don't like not being looked after 24/7 then they can leave....*crosses fingers** ;p
heres hoping you go overdue - hmmm going into labour on the 8th sounds good! Treat their visits like labour. Just breathe through it - it will soon be over
MsJames, if i were you i would be seriously, MAJORLY peeved off!
I loathe unannounced visitors at the best of times. And ILs especially! I would have snapped by now for sure! Unless you say something, everyone will assume that it's all perfectly fine with you.
And if ur DF won't talk with you, just go nuts as Maz suggests!
Why on earth are they coming to stay with you now anyways?! Surely at a time like this, they could go to a hotel?
Boys always stand up for their mums, but NOW is when YOU need him to stand up for YOU! It would be part of my worst nightmare to go into labour with my MIL around it doesn't happen!
Hmmm im not sure what u can do... Can you put your foot down with DF and ask that once his friend leaves, u want NO-ONE in your home? It might not be convenient for them, but is there alternate accommodation? Say your Ob has insisted that you should not be under the stress of entertaining overnight guests in this delicate stage.
I totally sympathise with you hun, make sure u look after urself and ur bubby girl first ok? Do whatever it takes to make urself comfortable, and talk it out with DF
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