Finding out the sex of the baby

[Gabi]

We found out and didn't tell.

I like the idea of telling people you didn't find out because then no one can bug you or try to trip you up or over analyse everything you say.

[kitten76]

We found out with DD3 because I had a miscarrage at 19 weeks prior to her. WE thought we would celebrate our little girl and let everyone know she was a girl in case we lost her. Im also doing the same with this PG. We want to celebrate our little one now. The name we`ll keep secret. Last time we mentioned Jenna as a potential name to some of hubbys friends , their response was " after the porno star". I have no idea who they were talking about but it totally put me off the name.

[mustangsachy]

hi all

am same as Myson - we found out sex and told everyone but we're not going to tell anyone the name until he's born (that's if we EVER decide on a name that is).

my mum didn't want to know but she came to the morphology scan and buckled to know also - i could tell she was dying to know

good luck on your decision.

[DoubleK]

we found out with DD and told everyone, we had the names picked out, so once we left the scan, we knew we had our Krystal!

we will find out with this bub as well... im happy to tell people.

i love knowing what to buy, i have looked around and there is really limited neutral stuff, that suits each sex(JMO) i would prefer to go for pink/ yellow/ purple for a girl, and blue/ red/ green for boys.

[SareBear]

I'm having my 20 week scan next week and we still haven't decided whether we want to know or not. We keep changing our minds. I doubt we'll decide until we're there, maybe we'll just see if we can guess and then we'll see if we're right in April

[ubba82]

Hi All!
We found out with DD and DS and it made it great for getting everything ready. We have no baby stuff left but at this stage have decided not to find out. I just want that ".....congratulations its a baby........". I think a baby can live in white for a few weeks then when I can be bothered I can go shopping!

[jenjen25]

Hi Everyone,

I've loved hearing everyone's answers on this one. I always wanted to find out, and my husband didn't so we neg and we found out but i've only told my sister who's our support person. Although it's been hard to keep the secret from our friends and family it has been really nice to have this secret between us. I think it's totally whatever you feel comfortable with. As long as our babies come out healthy and happy!!

[helle]

I say tell! :P
That way you'll get use out of all the gifts you get... because who really wants to put a little girl in a green or yellow growth suit!

[tenar]

I say tell! :P
because who really wants to put a little girl in a green or yellow growth suit!

Meee! I do!

We found our yesterday our baby is a girl, so went shopping (I'd been making Mum wait to take me shopping until we knew all was well with the baby - didn't want to jinx it). And I was so disappointed to find 90% of stuff in the shop was pink or red. And all the boy's stuff was blue and kahki - so obviously "boyish" that I didn't want to buy much of that either. Where was the green, yellow, orange, purple, white?

Who wants to see any child dressed in only one colour? I want my children to wear all the colours of the rainbow (at least until they are old enough to tell me they hate it...)!

Down with "girls must wear pink"!!!!!!!!!!!



(ok, ok, I do know that many people obviously have a different opinion on this)

[helle]

tenar, true that! But i always think while they're new born colour coded is a good idea as you can't always tell what sex some babies are... I know that sounds horrible..

Congrats on your bubby girl though! We're finding out what we're having in 16 days.. Not that i'm counting. DF is convinced we are having a boy and keeps sneaking boy clothes into the shopping trolley during christmas shopping trips! He got the cutest little kahki pair of overalls last night that make me hope he is right! If not I think I can girly-fy them up a bit ^^;

[tenar]

Teagz_88, true, I know that the colour-coding makes it easy to tell, generally, if a baby is a boy or a girl. It's why I didn't want to get too much blue stuff for ours, so people don't think she's a boy (or at least not too often).

But I honestly wonder why that should matter in the least? Anyone who knows your child, or is even introduced to them, will know from the name or from the way you refer to them. And for strangers why does it matter?

Why should the first thing we want to know about anyone is whether they are male or female? Of all the possible things (are they healthy, are they happy, are they blue-eyed, do they like chocolate...?) why should that one question be something so important, of a baby, to need to "colour code" it to the world?

(Not at all having a go at you, it's just something I wonder about. And I really feel sorry for people who don't fit well into "male" or "female" slots, in this world where everyone is so insistent on pigeonholing everyone in that way).

Enjoy your countdown (it drove me mad, waiting for this the last couple of weeks) and I hope you have all good news in 16 days!

[helle]

It's just the way 90% of the human populations brain is programed I guess..

[Dasharity]

Im going to find out but im not going to tell anyone that i know, i need to know for my own sake as a realy would like a girl and dont wont to be disapointed if i have another boy, dont get me wrong if i have a nother boy i will be very happy but i dont wont to risk not bonding with bub if i dont have what im hoping for.

[Liviam]

We didn't find out with Olivia and I am so happy we didn't. I will never forget the look on my DH's face after she was born. He had tears running down his face and told me we had a gorgeous little girl then kissed me. That was the most amazing moment. Just the look on his face was amazing. I guess I meant more to me DH telling me than a stranger doing their job. That is just my experience but it is a personal choice.
In relation to people buying gender specific gifts no-one knew what we were having (obviously, LOL!) and we didn't get a single present that wasn't for a girl.

[myson]

I understand completely Dasharity. If I was going to be having girl number three then I wanted to adjust to that idea before she arrived. Its not that i wouldnt love her but I think I would have needed time to grieve that fact that I would never have a son (this is definately our last child).... I didnt want to be going through that process of grieving when I should have been bonding with my new little girl.

but..... its a boy, so its not an issue now. And the boy clothes are pressies are rolling in already.

[krysalyss]

We found out the sex and had actually chosen names before finding out so everyone knew name and sex from 19 weeks. It was awesome getting to know the little person inside me and knowing his name and talking to him. His name is a little unusual and some people don't like it. By telling everyone the name beforehand they had time to get used to it and now noone thinks anything of it - it is just his name. But each to their own!