Finding out the sex of your bub? And what happens when you and your partner disagree?

[mrsr]

I have a DS from my first marriage and found out what he was going to be, but like many of you know, the ultrasound is not always 100% accurate with regard to determining the sex of a baby.

I want to find out the sex so I can refer to the baby as "him" or "her" but DH is adamant that he doesn't want to know the sex. If I hear one more person say, "but don't you want a surprise?" I'm going to go off my rocker!! I've said to those people, I'm not preparing for a boy or a girl, I will be preparing for a baby. To me, the surprise is meeting this little person and seeing what they look like.

I'm calling our little "Ramlet" a "he" at the moment and DH is convinced it's a girl. IF I do find out, I won't be telling him, but I'm sure he'll give in and want to know. I might surprise him and NOT find out, but I haven't made up my mind as yet.

[LuluHB]

I definitely wanted to know and DH didn't, so we agreed that I could find out but not tell anyone else except my mum, and I wasn't to tell DH that I knew. So, before our 20 week scan I slipped the receptionist a note explaining the situation, and asking that the sonographer write down in his notes what the sex was. I then called back later and found out.

I'll definitely be doing the same next time. I managed to keep the secret throughout the pregnant, and just hid the girl flavoured things I bought along the way from DH. I loved knowing we were having a little girl (and so did my Mum!!) and DH and I were both happy.

[aussienic]

We have never found out and I love the suspense.

We are of course tempted but we both know we would be disappointed if we found out.. nothing like gtteing the best surprise ever

Some say finding out means you just get that surprise earlier but I feel the opposite..

[KirstenFleur]

Hello.
I was desperate to find out, but DH was equally adamant that he didn't want to know... and he won. So now I'm just waiting. The nursery is neutral, although I have visions of buying brightly coloured transfers, and the baby clothes I've received are all neutral too. I'm sure once the baby's here I'll receive plenty of gender-appropriate gifts.

I really wanted to find out, because I have my heart set on a boy, and wanted to deal with the disappointment (read: smack myself round the head and tell myself to grow up) if she is a girl, well before he/she gets here and I suddenly have to cope with whoever's in my arms. Argh. Oh well. 6 weeks to go.
Kirsten
34 weeks pregnant today!