Thanks everyone.
Mother Goose - good point about not making it all about the baby. It is hard for me at the moment not to focus on the baby because I'm in complete nesting mode. I think I will make a consious effort when I pick her up tomorrow to firstly ask her all the normal stuff I ask when she returns from being away for the nine months and get her to show me all her photos. I'm thinking a movie night at one point will be good too.

Glenny-c - not smothering her is going to be the hardest part. I have a tendency to want to save her even though she is not a baby any more. I will prob need to offer her somewhere to come and have some time out as I can imagine moving home after lots of freedom will be hard. Must.be.sister/friend.and not take over!

K4t - good point about the birth certificate. At this point I think she would be really hurt if I pointed out that her bf may not follow through with his promises and that this could be even more difficult so will wait until after he visits and they have time to make a plan and discuss things further before I say anything.

Novella - good point about making the appointment for her. We did discuss the appointment when she first told me of the pregnancy but that was when I thought she wasn't going to be home until the new year. I will let her know that the option is there but that she can cancel if she likes. I made it for 10 days after she gets home so that she had time to consider if she wanted to take the appointment and to digest being home first.

Rytha - would love to hear what your friends/family did that was helpful. Our immediate family will rally around but I'm sure she is going to face some nasty comments from extended family. She is someone who has a very strong character and presents as not caring what others say or do but underneath she is a softy.

I think at the moment it will be helping her come to terms with the change of direction her life is taking. The week after finding out she was pg she was offered a managers position on the ship. I think she is seeing her life as over rather than changing. I also think she is very scared about having no money. My first impression when talking to her bf via skype was that he seemed to be besotted by my sister and that he was a nice guy. Fingers crossed that first (brief and over the net) impression was right!