...to NOT find out the gender? This is our 3rd and we already have 2 girls and I dont want to find out the gender. I dont want to deal with peoples rude comments if its another girl and I could care less what the gender is. My thing is Im such a curious person but I love the idea of a surprise. So what are some things to help you NOT find out the gender?
Oh I can't not find out!!
DD1 I didn't find out as she wouldn't show, but I was a wreck not knowing. Lovely surprise though!
Im not strong enough to wait, and I've always had heart set on particular gender. Having had gender disappointment, I've opted to know each time to prepare myself
I'm dying to know, but I just keep picturing that moment at birth where we get the extra joy of finding out and that helps me hold on. That said, if I thought you knew my bub's gender, I'd be demanding you tell me RIGHT NOW!!! SO curious!
Also, I knew the first two times as DH really wanted to find out. I know what that feels like now, and whilst it was wonderful extra bonding with little bumpy, this is our last, we're happy either way and I want to experience the surprise at birth.
I didn't find out either time. I tried all the urban legends to work it out, but didn't want to know officially before baby arrived. I felt it was like a special secret that only your baby knows, and they get to tell you when you finally meet them on the outside. There is temptation, especially if/when you have ultrasounds, but for us it was lovely to have the mystery until the end. And it does keep you going, when the pregnancy is hard or long, to start wondering what you think it will be.
I didn't find out with either. That moment when you see your newborn child enter the world and you have a look and discover if its a boy or a girl - well that kind of magic is rare in this life. I loved having two surprises - didn't find it difficult at all. In fact towards the end of my second pregnancy I would randomly remember that I didn't know what I was having and it would make me smile.
I know some people can't wait, but for us with two IVF bubbas, having something that was a true surprise, that wasn't scheduled or known ahead of time, was priceless.
It's not difficult at all, you just don't ask the radiologist to tell you... Or do you mean how hard is it to stop yourself asking? In that case, still very easy for me. I don't generally like knowing what other people are having, no way in hell am I finding out what I am!
I am pregnant with baby number four after three girls! I didn't find out with my first DD, and it was such a shock to me that she was a girl not the boy that my instinct had told me (ha)
The second time I found out, and I felt uneasy that they were wrong, I could not relax with what the sonographer had said. I checked at 35 weeks again and finally could relax that she was indeed a girl.
After baby two I decided never to find out the sex again, it didn't mean that I am not as curious as can be, but I found it much more fun not knowing what the baby was. We didn't even look at the gender until DD3 was over 2 hours old. It was such a joy to inhale her for two hours as our adored new family member and not know what she was.
THis time people have nearly driven me mad guessing what this baby is, everyone is a professional baby gender guesser!!! I has a moment in the ultrasound where I was weak at the knees to know, but I had already asked her not to tell me, and she was not going back on her word!! THis time we will again just enjoy baby time before we look at what gender the baby is, I am not sure how long that will be, it was clear when it was time to look last time so I will trust that again this time.
My hubby NEVER wants us to find out
So I've never found out
That moment is amazing when you see for yourself (not a good guess from sonographer) what you beautiful baby is.
People will say oh but I need to be organised
Um.... Lots of shops sell things you can easily get after the birth or someone else can get
Get a layby of both colours and return one
Buy unisex major items
Enjoy that nobody knows and you still have some mystery in this world of Facebook and everyone knowing everything.
We only ever can agree on one sex name and last time we only really had boys name and it was another girl
She was named before we left the delivery room.
If you don't want to know its easy
It was hard for me the first time
But after that surprise that shock that moment It was easier the second time
My hubby didn't want to find out either. But I did - I just "had" to. The first two times, DH didn't know that I knew (and yes, it was easy for me not to give it away), but I made it clear that the third time round I was finding out. That time it was harder to keep it a secret, but I managed. He actually thought DS3 was a girl for most of the pregnancy.
But in answer to your question, I have NO idea how mums-to-be don't find out, but good on them for waiting for a surprise Hmmm, I'm not much help to you really, am I, lol!
I thought it was just my man - he didn't want to find out either! But we did with DD because there was no way I didn't want to know. The way I felt was that I had this new life growing inside me, she was a physical part if my body, so how could I turn away ANY morsel of information about her? It seemed illogical to me not to find out if I could.
My six year old wants to know so bad and would love a brother but she understands that you get what you get and that both would be amazing.
Of course with two beautiful girls most everyone is telling me its a boy.
I am going to be shocked if it is actually a boy and shocked if it isn't lol!
I was in the same boat as you. A few weeks to go and I have survived not knowing the gender this time and now I am really excited about the suprise. I knww I just had to be strong at the scans so I told them straight away no matter what I say I don't want to know.
Like you I don't care about the gender but Everyone Is hoping for a boy. My thoughts are they will be excited that the baby is here and not what the gender is. Well hopefully. There are also a few that think we know but are not saying so it is fun to throw a few he and shes around to mess with them .
I just had my 4th after 3 girls. We didn't find out the sex and at some stages I was ready to just book a 3d scan cause I just wanted to know.
I also didn't want the gender comments, still got them though and even now that our 4th princess is here they still say to our face oh another girl? Yes a beautiful healthy little princess!! How could we not be happy?
People were so sure she would be a he but I had said the entire time I thought she was a girl!!
Have never known and loved surprise both times. When had scan for DS1 in waiting room DH was still telling me he wanted to find out but I didn't, in the end radiologist wrote it down in a sealed envelope and gave to me in case DH convinced me to know!! I carried in diary for rest of pregnancy and we opened when DS1 was a few hours old to see if was correct, it was. So msny friends couldn't believe I carried it without wanting to look!
DS2 we also had written down as DH wanted to do same again and see after if right.
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How hard is it...
I was tempted but kept thinking how great it will be after the hard work of pregnancy and labour to get the surprise!
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