How many times have you been pregnant? *Sensitive topic*

**Bern** · October 9th, 2011, 07:13 AM

ive been pregnant 4 times and have 2 living children.

**[M]umma[M]ia** · October 9th, 2011, 08:32 AM

2 Pregnancies and 2 baby girls.

***Twinkle*** · October 9th, 2011, 08:46 AM

2pregnancies and two little girls

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**saslia** · October 9th, 2011, 09:57 AM

7 pregnancies - 2 children. 4 miscarriages and one still born. I have a tattoo on my wrist that represents them all <3

**Beatrix** · October 9th, 2011, 10:08 AM

3 pregnancies and 3 beautiful children.

I know I'm lucky.

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**nothing2lose** · October 9th, 2011, 10:30 AM

Three pregnancies. One beautiful daughter.

Then there are the six fertilised embryos that I have had transferred into me this year that DP and I created out of love and an overwhelmingly huge desire to have a child together. I guess they don't really count to anyone else but they do to me.

**Maruschke** · October 9th, 2011, 11:15 AM

Three pregnancies. One beautiful daughter.

Then there are the six fertilised embryos that I have had transferred into me this year that DP and I created out of love and an overwhelmingly huge desire to have a child together. I guess they don't really count to anyone else but they do to me.

Yes N2L, they count

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**delphmoon** · October 9th, 2011, 11:50 AM

Three pregnancies. One beautiful daughter.

Then there are the six fertilised embryos that I have had transferred into me this year that DP and I created out of love and an overwhelmingly huge desire to have a child together. I guess they don't really count to anyone else but they do to me.

They definitely do count

**briggsy's girl** · October 9th, 2011, 11:53 AM

Then there are the six fertilised embryos that I have had transferred into me this year that DP and I created out of love and an overwhelmingly huge desire to have a child together. I guess they don't really count to anyone else but they do to me.

They will always count to you hun - and that's what matters. don't let anyone else tell you if they should or shouldn't count - what you feel in your heart is all that matters.

i don't count our unsuccessful embryo's when discussing pregnancy and loss - but i very much count them for me. when i get the ink on my back updated for our angel babies, there will be something symbolic (probably small stars) for the four embryo's that didn't take

**hj1981** · October 9th, 2011, 12:32 PM

4 pregnancies and 2 beautiful baby girls

**Rach75** · October 10th, 2011, 12:13 PM

8 times
1 ectopic
4 m/c 6-10week gestaions
1 s/b @ 21 weeks due to anencephaly
2 healthy happy boys

**Chrispe** · November 16th, 2011, 09:00 PM

I wonder how the loss of an early twin gets 'counted' when the pregnancy continues to a live birth of the other twin. If it gets 'counted' at all.

It gets counted. My mum lost my twin at 10-12 weeks. She had lost another baby 12 months before at the same gestation so she rushed to the hospital to see if anything could be done. It was then that they did a u/s & found me waving. And yes it was a definite loss as my mum remembers holding my twin in her hands after it was lost.

She had 6 babies out of 7 pregnancies but at least 2 of the pregnancies were twins. Some were lost due to the Rhesus factor.

Myself I've had 3 babies out of 4 pregnancies, #3 was prem. The last was an early mc & I'm pretty sure it was twins. (they run in my family).

**beckoes** · November 16th, 2011, 09:03 PM

i feel very blessed to have never experienced a loss. 2 pregnancies 2 girls.

**Chrispe** · November 16th, 2011, 09:21 PM

Y'know, I'm sorry, I have tried to let it go, but I'm really offended. I have NOTHING to remember my babies by. Most people don't even consider them babies because they were only 6 weeks old (as further evidenced by this thread). I never got to hold them, to see what they looked like, I don't even know if they were boys or girls. Sometimes I feel stupid for having given them unisex names, I feel like I'm making too much out of nothing. But y'know what? They were and ARE my babies, and I bet that my heart aches just as much as anyones

I don't think it's helpful to anyone to say that one loss is worse than another - ALL loss is fricken' painful and should never happen.

Keike it's ok. The loss of a baby is still a loss no matter when it happens.

I have friends who have had early loss, late loss, stillborn, SIDS, the list goes on..... Those little ones were your babies you loved & wanted them.

I recently (sep/oct) lost twins very early on & I do feel it although I haven't told many people as some just don't understand. Some would even question how I knew that it was twins (as it was too early to u/s) but having had 3 babies previously I knew, & I felt like I knew my twins too.

My Mum was the one that taught me that early miscarriage is still loss and we are allowed to grieve for those loved ones. Whenever my Mum would hear that a friend had lost a baby she would head straight over just to be there so that the mum could talk with someone who understood.

**MummyOfTerrors** · November 16th, 2011, 09:47 PM

ive been extremely blessed with 3 pregnancy and 3 beautiful children

**Calluna** · November 16th, 2011, 10:11 PM

hopefully this doesn't offend anyone. If it does I'm sincerely sorry.

1 live baby,
1 possible early loss while TTC DS - I'll never know for sure as it didn't occur to me until after DS was born, that may have been what it was.

how do you grieve someone you're not sure existed? I feel like I don't have the right, or that I have the ability to grieve it. I didn't have hopes for it, I didn't bond with it. I didn't know s/he may have existed until DS was 6 months old.
How does someone move past something like that? I feel like I'm stuck in limbo.

**ellasmummy** · November 16th, 2011, 10:24 PM

3 pregnancies, 1 MC at 9 weeks and 2 little princesses

**Chrispe** · November 16th, 2011, 11:39 PM

hopefully this doesn't offend anyone. If it does I'm sincerely sorry.

1 live baby,
1 possible early loss while TTC DS - I'll never know for sure as it didn't occur to me until after DS was born, that may have been what it was.

how do you grieve someone you're not sure existed? I feel like I don't have the right, or that I have the ability to grieve it. I didn't have hopes for it, I didn't bond with it. I didn't know s/he may have existed until DS was 6 months old.
How does someone move past something like that? I feel like I'm stuck in limbo.

I understand how you feel. You have the right to grieve, if you want to. I sometimes ask the universe "why?" just to get in off my chest. And other times when the subject comes up I pick up my DS2 & give him the biggest hug, & just let myself be thankful for him (we nearly lost him at birth, spontaneous labour at 33weeks) so maybe when you don't know how to feel about that pos early mc cuddle you little guy & tell him how much your glad he's here.

Sometimes it's the only thing that keeps me from breaking down.

I hope this helps?