Mrs J

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I was worried my DH would faint. He hates needles and blood. Wheras i was a regular blood donor. Brave man that he is, he agreed to donate blood in my place. He fainted. but he did it! twice (once for each baby).

And during the birth of our first he was brilliant. We had a waterbirth at the hospital. I was very inward, my job was to birth, his job was to guard my space. He kept himself busy making sure i had my needs covered.

He came to nearly every antenatal appointment, the scans (2) and the birth classes.

For a homebirth, it might be good to have midwife and a doula.

A doula can help you both prepare for the birth, work through your concerns. Then you can call her if you need her during the birth (there is never an obligation to call them). This option can be empowering for both you and your husband.

My DH comment after the birth of our first, that waterbirth seemed 'cleaner' bloodwise.