Honey, I think either way it will be so hard, confusing and difficult for you guys. If its a girl then its not what you 'hoped' for, if its a boy, he isnt Jack iykwim I agree with the writting it down and reading it when you are ready, when you can be out of view of everyone else and their judgements. Whatever the result, sweetpea, we are here for you. Just wish I could come hold your hand

It musr be very confusing for Miss C, its confusing enough for an adult to process

ETA: Like others said by being able to name your Bear Cub it might help DD1 to understand.