I think i will have to say something to dh, and maybe talk to dad first see if he has any inside information, my mum and i have a love hate relationship, she is a great granny to the kids who love her to bits and when we dissagree we have our spat once we cool down we alway kiss and make up but dear old mum must have her own issues going on to be so mean about such a wonderful thing thanks i'm feeling abit alone so i will tell dh even if i play it down a bit i don't want him to get to cross with mum wish me luck