Not really feeling it

[Arcadia]

I just need to get this off my chest.

I'm 11weeks 4 days and finally the dreaded ms has eased. I've lost weight since falling pg (and look anorexic it's shocking) and I'm just not really feeling the pg uterus I would expect.

I normally have a strong sense of things being ok, and this time I have doubts. I have this fear I will go to the 12 week scan and see a missed Mc or something.

I haven't had any cramping since falling pg and I've actually dropped two bra sizes (I'm smaller now than pre kids, although I have just stopped breastfeeding after 4.5 years).

With ds I had felt movement by now and while he was an insanely active baby, I suppose I'm expecting to feel something already (and sometime I think I have but I'm not sure).

This baby had such a strong presence since day one and I'm just not feeling it. I know I get anxiety but it's a fine line between intuition and anxiety sometimes. I heard a heartbeat at 9w 5days and haven't any reason to worry except my own brain.

Normal pg worries? Just give me some stories.

[tippytoes]

Big hugs Arcadia.... Wish there was a magic answer. I'm only 5w 4days and I am stressing about baby being ok... When is ur next scan?? Xx

[raffy]

I'm 10 weeks and 3 days and I feel exactly the same!! I have had all day nausea and vomiting and I've lost 6kg in 4 weeks but other than that... Nothing! We never had a dating scan so our first scan will be our 12 week scan Monday week and DH wanted to bring DS1 but I said no because I had a feeling something was wrong

[Arcadia]

Thanks tippy toes. Scan is in Tuesday. I've never had the maternal screening for ds before and I'm wondering if this anxiety is actually about discovering something wrong with baby. For the other two I've just accepted I will cope with whatever, but this time I have other children to worry about.

[Arcadia]

Hugs to you too raffy. Maybe it's a third pg thing? Like our bodies are just adjusting without us noticing. I can't believe I would miss ms. It was horrendous this time but it was reassuring.
I will update on Tuesday after the scan.

[tippytoes]

Lol mine is third baby too? What is with that? I think part of the worry is that this baby was conceived naturally not ICSI or FET like my last two. I can't help but worry if it is strong enough... I want it so badly to be ok. My early scan isn't until Wednesday week, don't know how I'll get there! I'm worried... all the time! My MS comes and goes and I can't remember when it really kicked in with the other two

I am sure everything will be ok on Tuesday Arcadia... I look forward to your happy post. Also, do you mind me asking... Do you feel your bump is smaller than at the same stage with other two children?

Raffy - hope everything is ok with your little darling too xx

[Cassius2]

I had dread the whole way with DD3s pregnancy. I wonder if it has to do with the fact that we dont get the same time to focus on the belly and pregnancy as we did in our previous pregnancies? I know that i was, at times, so insanely busy and wrapped up in the antics of the world and my two older kids that I didnt get to honor the baby growing inside of me enough. With DD3 i didnt feel any good movement until close to 20-23 weeks. it was really scary and confronting as with DD2 I felt movement from 10-11 weeks.

much love arcadia

[raffy]

Perhaps you're right Arcadia, maybe our bodies are just like 'sweet! Done this a few times before' lol I look forward to seeing your happy post on Tuesday

Thank you tippytoes

[Heaven]

I was the same, so anxious. I only told a couple of friends about it because I was sure it wasn't going to work out. When I would talk about having the baby I would say to DH 'if we have this baby in January...' I don't know why, just preparing myself for the worst or something. Not believing I could really be this lucky again.

I've never had the maternal screening for ds before and I'm wondering if this anxiety is actually about discovering something wrong with baby. For the other two I've just accepted I will cope with whatever, but this time I have other children to worry about.

This too! I was never worried about anything being wrong with the other two, I just assumed they would be healthy of course. This time I was really worried about it and certain I would be high risk!!

But the important thing is my worry didn't mean anything, everything was/is fine.

[TickToc]

Good luck with your scan Arcadia. I found I had convinced myself there would be no baby at my dating scan but there was & everything was fine. Fingers crossed your anxiety is preventing you from "feeling it" & your scan shows & healthy bub.

[Arcadia]

Thanks everyone, you don't know how reassuring your posts have been to read.

Tippytoes yep my bump is much smaller than I expected. In fact now the bloating of very early pg has passed my stomach is flat most of the time. Not reassuring.

Cassius yes I think the busyness of life with children means the bump is ignored which makes the negative thoughts stand out more.
Your late movement is very reassuring too. Though I'm sorry you also had worries.

Heaven, do you think there is sense of testing fate? That three healthy babies is not possible? My midwife said in her experience the third pg is a wild card and boy am I feeling the wildness already!!!

[willow5]

I was so sick with DD and I had a break in nausea at about 9 weeks and was all of a sudden terrified something was wrong. You said your M/S has eased, maybe it's that? The absence of being sick is making you worry?

My third pg was unlike any of my other three!! In a good way though, here's hoping the same for you from here on