Im pregnant with my 4th child and when I told my family I got the reaction I expected....not a good one! So I didnt speak to them for 3 weeks until my mother rang me crying saying she misses me etc and that even though she doesnt agree with things i do she will always love me.
Here is a little of my story, Im going through my second divorce but my family still love me ex husband and thing i should get back with him even though we fight all the time and didnt get along, im with someone else who they wont accept cause its not cameron (my ex) and because ive only been with barry for less than 5 months and Im nearly 10 weeks pregnant with his child (wasnt planned) im now the black sheep of the family who keeps stuffing everything up blah blah. im 33, im paying off a mortgage, i have 3 gorgeous girls who are bright, well looked after (maybe a bit too much with computers and phones etc) but they never go without, my family still treat me like im a child that knows nothing, they dont understand that now i need my family more than ever as ive been diagnosed with severe prenatal depression, so i said to myself fine, if they want to act this way then they are more of a little child than they claim me to be.
Moral of the story is, its your life, you answer to nobody. As long as your happy and your children are happy then thats the main thing. People will say negative things but thats probably because they are jealous!
I don't envy your position. I reckon you are going to get lots of comments about you having enough kids already and also lots about trying for a boy. You could also get comments about your age as it seems there are lots of people out there who don't think you should have kids over the age of 35.
It's not easy to deal with negative comments about your pregnancy. The worst I got was from a woman telling me how brave I was giving birth at my age (I was 42 when I gave birth but was still pregnant when she said it). I still don't know what she meant by it and I couldn't think of anything to say back so just walked off. Until she realised how old I was she'd been all positive about it.
Now that we have a boy and my DF has a girl everyone is presuming that there will be no more. I'd hate to think what kind of comments we'd get if we did. Before I'd even had him my mother had asked me what kind of contraception I was going to use afterwards ("because you don't want to be having another one"). I found that unbelievable as he was afterall my first child.
I wish people would keep their opinions on how many children any couple should have to themselves.
Best of luck with announcing your pregnancy. Whatever they say don't let it get to you. Remember you don't have to say anything back, you can always just ignore what was said or do what I did and walk off.
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