thread: Pregnancy nightmares

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    Pregnancy nightmares

    So how do you guys cope with nightmares? I reckon I have them every second night. It almost always involves the death of myself or DD1, but occasionally it involves the death of DD2. Really quite frightening. Any tips would be great. Still struggling to embrace this pregnancy, being excited... it is just not happening.

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    I have no advice but wanted to come in and just reassure you that death in dreams means change, not dying. I think you are just subconsciously thinking about the changes coming with another addition to your family. Can you write down how you are feeling about this pg and any negative thoughts burn them? Just something a psychologist told me to do when I had some issues. :hugs:

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    I had nightmares, and then other 'awkward' dreams during pregnancy too - they feel so real it is hard to let them go when you awake. I don't really have any advice either, just wanted to let you know you are not the only one.

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    sad to hear you are getting the bad dreams. like RCC said, death doesn't mean death, so maybe you are just thinking about the change it will bring to your life. I know that doesn't make them any nicer to endure *hugs*
    I have only had 1 nightmare whilst pregnant... and that was the night after walking to my midwife (one of my best friends who is also preg) who as asking me about them because she gets them every night so bad she can't go back to bed, so I had one that night, after obviously thinking about them a bit. I always have intense dreams though, even before I was pregnant, I would remember multiple dreams every night, so maybe I'm just use to it.

    I have no idea if this would work..but can you try having a nice soothing cup of chamomile tea or something before bed, make a little bed time routine for yourself that involves being peaceful and calm and soothing, and maybe will make your sleep the same?

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    Thanks all. T I will try the tea.

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    I have no idea if it would work.. But i know it is mean to calm and sooth you, but hey, give everything a go? =) really hope its works *hugs*

    =O and wow you are 20weeks!!!!!! YAY!!!

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    Apr 2006
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    No real advice or else I'd be using it myself - just understanding and sympathy. I've lost track of the number of times I've woken in tears from really distressing dreams. I can never get back to sleep after one until I've gone and given both girls a kiss and cuddle and tried to reassure myself that they're safe and healthy. I've woken them (accidently) up a few times and ended up crawling into bed with them for a proper cuddle and sleep. definitely the best pick me up to be able to snuggle up and hold them safe.

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    Another with no advice, but can certainly empathise I find them incredibly distressing and I find myself thinking about them for days, sometimes even weeks afterwards. Hope you can find something to help xx

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    Hey Maruschke,

    How are you sleeping atm? Are you still having nightmares?

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    Hey Maruschke,

    How are you sleeping atm? Are you still having nightmares?
    Yep. Part of life for me now I guess.

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    They are distressing aren't they? I had one the other night where I walked into the bathroom and found DH and DS both drowned in the bath, I woke up feeling physically sick. Pregnancy dreams are so vivid. Hope they settle down for you soon. I remember in my last pregnancy they did ease off and I slept much more peacefully

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    :-( Sorry to hear that Maruschke. I hope they ease for you x

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    They are distressing aren't they? I had one the other night where I walked into the bathroom and found DH and DS both drowned in the bath, I woke up feeling physically sick. Pregnancy dreams are so vivid. Hope they settle down for you soon. I remember in my last pregnancy they did ease off and I slept much more peacefully
    That dream would be terrible, heck I hope I don't have any nightmares in this pg. I am certain I didn't with DD