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    Deb, when I had Joel my room was full of presents and gifts. I guess everyone wanted to see the "baby" with the baby. By the time I had Brandon most of Shane's (ex) family didn't even bother coming in, and some of mine didn't either.

    Noah, our (mark and I) first baby, but even then only his immediate family came to visit. My family and friends all came again. Again it was different with Tehya, not sure it was becasue she was born at home and we had no hospital time. Thankfully we didn't have a sudden influx of people all at once, rahter gradually over the first week or so.

    My family were very happy when I announced my 2nd, 3rd and 4th pregnancies. Especially my last one

    DP's family weren't so happy, but tough bikkies to them.

    As long as you and your hubby's are happy, who cares what others think. It's their loss. Who can resist a gorgeous newly born baby. I know I can't.


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    Yep it's infuriating Kate... But also the "OOOH #3, you should find out what causes it!"
    It really P!sses me off, why do persons with 1, 2, 3, 4 or 10 kids constantly comment to me that having a 3rd is TOO many!.
    It's not even ppl with only 1 or 2 kids, it's ppl with numerous kids!!??? Why is/was it Ok for them to have many, but for us it's like a curse!?

    PS. I think I am constipated & that sux too about being preg....

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    For most of my pregnancy I've felt like a fraud. Almost no bouts of m/s (maybe 3 bouts), no sore BB's, none of the common complaints. Then I got edema somewhere along the line - never thought anything of it. It got worse. I finally remembered to tell my Ob and got such a talking to because my BP just happened to be sky high that visit. Thankfully - I now have recognisable feet again (courtesy of the cooler weather). Now well and truly into the third semester, I'm suddenly getting a massive onslaught of back pain... and isn't that lovely.... I feel like I've got a compressed nerve in my backside and sitting is just not nice. Standing for too long kills my legs and feet and makes the edema worse. Lying down is not an option most of the time. I'm sick of not being able to sleep - although I keep telling myself it is just training for when Bubs gets here.

    And then there's DH. Granted he tries (mostly my nerves) and has been much better around the house since I got PG. But does this man not know when to stop working? Drives me mental! I can handle most of that but I can't handle him not getting off his backside and working on the second hand cot and change table he talked me into buying so that he could do them up and "bond with the baby". Fair enough. But these items have been sitting in the shed for about 3 months and he hasn't done ONE THING to them! I want them in the nursery - preferably BEFORE the baby arrives! But his good points do outweigh his bad (love you hon).

    Oh - then there's my family. Where do I start? My stupid brother got his partner pregnant AGAIN and are having their 4th baby. When I first got PG I posted about this in the boo hoo thread but in short, they can't afford one kid let alone 4, they don't look after the kids and most of the time they aren't even clothed appropriately (shorts only without anything else on a freezing winter's day) or feed properly. My brother does drugs etc etc etc. The best bit about their pregnancy? They're due 3 days after me and expect everyone to coo and gaa over them (mind you, I haven't told them I'm PG because I don't want them in my life let alone the baby's. Only know what they're up to because my lil sister can't handle it and calls me for support). Anyway, they've now split. My brother is going down the same path as my mother did threatening suicide if he can't see the kids. Brilliant. I've kept out of it so my Dad tried to tell me I'm selfish because I won't call them or get involved (i.e. give them money - which I don't have to give). Dad only tried that once. But then there is the general lack of interest from my father about my pregnancy. His 4th or 5th grandchild (depending on who has their baby first) but my first child and he has shown little interest. I call him after every appointment to update him but he has never called to see how I'm doing - even when DH went away with the Army (did I mention all my family is interstate?). My IL's are more into the pregnancy than my Dad is. It's their first grandchild but they won't even come over after the birth. Oh, and then there's MIL telling me my baby is going to die in labour if I don't miscarry during the pregnancy. Thanks heaps. Even with all their fears and apprehension, my IL's call regularly (even though we call them after every appointment as well) to see how we're doing. They call whenever DH is away even though they hate the Army and his involvement. My Grandma is the only one who has offered support and she had open heart surgery not long ago followed by a massive infection where they took the graft from her leg and nearly lost it. My Grandparents and Aunt are more excited about this pregnancy than anyone else!

    Then there's the fire brigade. What a bunch of outdated men! As soon as they discovered I was PG they tried to stop me from doing EVERYTHING even though I had medical clearance! I lasted 7 months and then put in for leave. Morons. They made me so mad. But I'm spewing that I'm not off fighting these fires. I'm peeved that I'm missing all my normal training (not fire brigade related) and struggle to walk on a flat path let alone try anything I would have done before! I'm sick of maternity clothes. I'm sick of people's comments on the size of my belly (And I've only put weight on in my thighs and tummy). I'm sick of people telling me I won't be able to work until 2 weeks prior to my EDD as I'm planning because they simply don't think I can. I'm sick of people judging me for having already picked child care and booked in to go back to work in July (I only work two days a week!).

    but most of all, I'm sick of feeling like a fraud!!! I want my baby here now please. No really, then maybe my life can resemble some normalness. What on earth am I saying? There will be no such thing as normal ever again!!!! ROFL.

    Sorry for the length girls. I feel much better now!

    Love MG

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    Oh MG i dunno what to say... except your MIL is not nice, DH better pull his finger out and for the fire brigade Bah to them they dont know a thing about pregnancy! They are mostly men and very shovanistic by the sounds of them.
    As for your brother and SIL OMG i wouldnt of told them either! I mean why should you. Im glad someone is happy for you with your aunt and grandparents.
    How is your grandmother doing now? I hope she is ok.
    Luv Jen

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    Jesus MG where does MIL get off saying that sort of thing... and for your brother wow girl i dont blame you for not saying anything and he needs to help himself before anybody trys to help him... You need to concentrate on your health and your life not his!!

    Caro: with your foot, have you been to emergency or the GP about it? have you had xray on it?? There has to be something someone can do you cant live with your foot like this? Where abouts in WA are you?? What hospital you booked at?? *if you dont mind me asking* I could try to help you out if you need someone.

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    I was determined today would be a better day - a new day and all. Instead I bawled my eyes out for three hours over NOTHING. I'm over this hormone thing! 7 weeks to go, 7 weeks to go....

    Thanks for the support about my MIL girls - but don't worry, I ignore her 99.9% of the time! It's just annoying when you put it all together... Dad, brother, IL's, Grandparents health, DH's work hours, ignorant old men...

    Jen Grandma is doing really well. Her leg has pretty much healed and she can travel again (she's going to QLD to see one of my Uncles) but I still couldn't ask her to come and help me out considering what she's been through recently (I'm a tad protective of my Gran!). I hope you're having a better day - I read your post in our due thread - are you ok?

    Caro How is your foot hon? Have you been to the physio? Or have you booked into an orthopedic specialist? I wish I was there to help you out.

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    WOW MG I'd have slapped MIL, what a cruel & disgusting thing to say, she's sounds vile!
    As for your Bro, I got a younger Sister like that & I just dsopnt ahve time for her & her crap.... She's also the one that said she hates the name I have chosen for a boy! Like I give a toss what she has to say, I wish she'd just dissappear!!!

    Caro, I really hope you get some relief soon....

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    Im over this!!!! I am going to have a bit of a vent about my pregnancy.......... I hate throwing up.. that is all that I seem to be doing lately!! I dont know what to eat when I get hungry cause everything makes me feel sick and then I get too hungry and then I throw up. I had a major incident just before and then I started crying. Its been the worst one yet and I just want it to go away!!! I want to know what I want to eat, I want to be able to go somewhere without being worried that I am going to get hungry and throw up. I really want to know what to have for dinner, cause I dont have a clue and it is dinner time now!!! ahhhh.. going insane. DP asked me just now, what did I expected - that everything would be fine and I wouldnt feel like this?! How am I meant to know what things will be like as I have never been pg!! Oh and then he asked "I thought it was only meant to be morning sickness!!"

    ahhh sorry for my vent, very emotional and hungry and just want to cry..

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    well i hardly feel like i can complain now!
    caro, your foot thing sounds awful, you poor thing.
    mother goose, what a nightmare family!
    ngala, i feel like you...im 7 weeks and feel disgusting..im sure i wasnt this naseaus the first time, it has been constant for about a week now - just feeling disgusting all day.
    and the tiredness sucks - trying to run a business and look after a toddler..but the naseau is still worse, im off to the chemist to try ginger, b6 and accupuncture wrist bands..

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    Pelvic pain! its the worst i have felt with all my pregnancies (this is the 3rd) and it is killing me!!! Plus im getting BHs with every movement bubs does! I want 7 weeks to go quickly!! How can i make it go faster??????
    Now i have to go and bath DS and have to walk up stairs, thats going to kill me even more! Oh well the joys of being pg.. Not that i would change anything i just want to hold my little man in my arms and have a cuddle!!

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    Jen - hang in there hon. The next 7 weeks will be over before you know it. Can you make DP bath DS tonight?

    MG

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    DF wasnt here to bath him he was too busy fishing! So i did it. I am now still in pain go for my app this arvo so i will be saying something to the dr... When i go to these apps and DF comes he looks at me stupid when i ask questions... Like i should know. Ha. I know this is my 3rd pg but it is so diff from the last 2. Oh well. I will go to the app without him today.
    Caro it doesnt sound good with your foot..i hope they can do something to ease the discomfort for you.
    Better go and stop whinging or i will be here all day.
    Jen

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    OK sorry for not mentioning the above posts but I just need a whinge.

    I'm beginning to be over this whole pregnancy thing. I'm sick of not sleeping properly (and yes I know thats not going to get better when the baby's here!!). Sick of sleeping on one side then rolling over to the other being a mjor effort.

    Sick of worrying about the baby when I don't feel it move for a little bit - I'm just sick of being paranoid

    Sick of having sore fingers thanks to the carpel tunnel syndrome I've just developed in the last week or so.

    Sick of being tired all the time.

    Sick of people giving me advice - and then saying oh you'll learn! when I don't seem to be taking notes on their advice!

    Just tired and grumpy I guess. Thanks for letting me whinge.

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    Awww Percy... it sux hey? The rolling over thing used to drive me nuts too. Sleeping was just difficult at times. It does get better once the baby is here becuase it's different. At least you'll be able to get comfortable.
    I hope the next 5 weeks or so zoom along for you. You're at the home stretch!

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    Ohhh I remember the rolling over thing too. DH falls asleep so easy that I didn't feel bad about waking him up and saying 'I need to roll' and he'd help me :P Could you ask for some assistance?
    Oh and as for the sleep, people used to say to me too, 'you think it's bad now, wait til you have the baby'. Well, rubbish. Sure, you wake up a few times a night, but it's deep sleep when you sleep, and you can sleep on your tummy and your back (you can even sleep on your tummy if your boobs are full to bursting, you just gotta prop yourself right with pillows - it's bliss for a tummy sleeper).
    So take heart, you're not too far away!

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    Oh Percy i am feeling exactly what your feeling too sweets. Your only about a week in front of me. I hope you get some rest, even if it is a nanna nap during the day (im soooo glad DS sleeps for about 3 hrs during the day) Lets just hope you can sleep.
    Dont worry about not writing everything down, every baby is different so you wont know what is best for your baby... I could never tell the difference between DS's crying.... I had to look at the clock to make sure it was feed time! Now that sounds bad doesnt it.. But when you have your precious baby in your arms you will forget about all the discomfort and sleeplessness, and as Nelle said, yes you do wake up a few times a night but when you go back to sleep its a deep sleep till the next feed (or when your other children wake). Dont worry i think you will make a fantastic mum! Goodluck with the birth..

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    Percy big hugs to you.
    I know what it's like to have carpel tunnel syndrome i had it so bad when i was pg with Alexander but not had it with this pregnancy. Maybe for me it was a boy thing.
    The sleep thing is awful i hate trying to roll over at night it takes so much out of you.
    Try and get some rest during the day. Sometimes i fall asleep on the sofa and listen out for Kimberley and Alex i get the stage that i can't stay awake any longer and will clean up what mess they make when i wake up.

    GL with the rest of your pregnancy.

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    thanks guys for your support. I don't have other children so I can sleep during the day but just don't seem to be able to at the moment. Am too uncomfortable

    Anyways only 5 weeks to go! Am already 1/4 descended so hopefully I won't be late!! (well one can hope!)

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