DH = dear husband.

Hun, she has every reason to be mad at you - you unleashed the evil hormones within! OK, my husband did laugh at me for that explaination, but when you're feeling tired, crappy, long day, throwing up, headaches, generally low (because of the weakened immune system - it hits you hard) and PMS ten times worse than you've had before, then it does almost make sense to blame the person who got you in that state in the first place.

Trust me, it really is just the hormones. This does settle down somewhat in the second trimester, but until then it's hell - not just for you, for your poor partner who knows that she's being silly but can't stop herself. I know I've been silly at times over really, really stupid things - like the time my husband spends on his car, and even the attention his pillow gets (which I hid from him at the weekend because I'm so sick of the pillow, he thought I'd thrown it away haha!) but please be assured that this will pass, all these hormones really do make us do stupid things. This isn't to let her off entirely, as even I don't deserve to be let off entirely and if you met my husband you'd see entirely the mitigating circumstances.

As you pointed out, she last had this 20 years ago so having all this hit you again when you'd forgotten all about it is really scary, no wonder the menfolk seem to run to the hills. Even DH's best mate has learnt my "scary look" and I usually only see him for mealtimes!

Get your partner onto BB if you can - I want to talk to other girls with stupid hormones so we can laugh at each other together!