I'm having the same issue - although the other way around. DH is deadset on NOT finding out, whereas I think it will help it become more 'real' to me and allow to bond a bit more. DH has 2 girls from a previous relationship, so I'm scared that if I have a girl, it won't be as exciting for him... which is ridiculous, but hey... don't argue with a sick, pregnant lady

I'm terrible at keeping a secret though, the only way it would be able to work is if I just pretend to everyone that I didn't know. DH would be the only who knew that I knew itms?

In saying all of that, my bump has popped in the last week or so and the kicks have started, so it's become more 'real' for me... as my scan date gets closer, I'm actually leaning away from finding out.

Perhaps once your DH feels the baby kick it will become more real for him and asisst with bonding?