Reasons for not finding out the sex at the 20 week ultrasound

[Lolpigs]

I didn't find out and hubby wanted to. Mostly because I didn't really care about the sex of the baby, so long as it is healthy I haven't been fussed. My husband didn't seem too concerned when I didn't want to know. He just tells me now it's a boy becuase I didn't find out and that's what he wants LOL

I agree, about the bit of paper, but your hubby should also respect your wishes if you dont' want the world to know before the baby is born. I agree with the kicking, it helped hubby and he plays with the baby already chasing it's feet around my belly, thinking its very funny when the baby boots me becuase it's feet are being tickled LOL

EVERYONE else in the family wants to know, so now everyone is guessing the sex of the baby which is funny, and also seems to be helping them bond more with the baby before it's born.

I too dont care for the stigma of boys in blue and girls in pink, even if we do have a girl there won't be much pink. I also personally didn't care for how people place expectations on a child, just due to sex (ie girls have to be fairy cakes and boys being "boys") so this way noone can place any expectations on the baby before it's born, it can just be and be loved IYKWIM?

Also, it means I have something else to tell people when the baby is born, quite a few times I've seen people tell everyone the sex, and name of the baby so the excitement around the birth is dulled becuase everyone already knows.

Anyway just my thoughts Good luck whatever you decide!

[Me+him+bub]

we dont know what we are having and am so glad we waited coz it is getting really exciting now wondering what it is and knowing in 2-3 weeks time! also a friend of mine convinced me when she said that it is the last real surprise in your life.

[RhiChiChi]

It's a great surprise when you are told by whoever delivers bubs what the sex is!
You get all gender specific clothes & items as gifts, which is really special!
You don't have to be careful about not slipping out the name for bubs (in case you want that a secret as well)
You can get people to 'bet' on the sex of bubs and them give you their theories why they think it is a boy or girl and see who was right!

[~Kim~]

we dont know what we are having and am so glad we waited coz it is getting really exciting now wondering what it is and knowing in 2-3 weeks time! also a friend of mine convinced me when she said that it is the last real surprise in your life.

I totally agree.
I found out accidentally with DS and it certainly took some of the shine off the surprise.

What's more concerning is that DH doesn't appear to be considering your feelings at all. Him finding out on his own is one thing so he can bond, but blabbing to the world when you've clearly said you didn't want that is not cool.
Worrying about what other people buy is kinda silly. For generations people have survived quite fine without knowing.