She's only 22 weeks - Updated - A little boy is here!
My friend, who's been trying to fall pregnant for 18 months, is currently in hospital giving birth to her 22 week old baby.
She was the first person I found IRL who truly understood LTTTC, as she and her husband were also living it. I was so ecstatic when she told me she was pregnant, only to lose her first at 10 weeks. I tried hard to distract her when she got to 10 weeks this time, and we both sighed with relief as the milestone passed uneventfully.
I saw her just a couple of weeks ago, and she was rubbing her belly and being kicked, and so excited. 2 days ago she went into hard and fast labour, and the doctors managed to stop it, putting her on complete bed rest for the remainder of her pregnancy, which was supposed to last a hell of a lot longer than 2 days.
*VENT*
Isn't it enough that we have to go through so much just to GET pregnant?! She should've been able to feel safe! She'll never be able to enjoy a pregnancy now! I would give ANYTHING to save her baby, I can't stand to know she's in so much pain.
....I don't know what else to say, I'm sobbing at the moment. I have to go to work but I'm gonna be crying all day. I'd go to the hospital but she has closer friends there - we're only friends through our TTC journey. I have so much emotion running through me, I feel like I'll explode
I am crying too now.. That is so sad.. Even though you are only friends through your TTC journey, don't underestimate what you may mean to her.. Just because she has "closer friends" with her doesn't mean she wont need you.. The more support the better. (Also just because they are closer friends doesn't mean they are supportive. I had the most ridiculous things said to me by a couple of 'close' friends) If you are unsure, send her a card to say you are thinking of her and her family. Then just check in with her every few days and understand she may or may not want to talk but it will be nice for her to know someone cares.. Let us know how you go with your friend.. It is very unfair
I am so sorry for both you and your friend, it's just devastating to read this.
You're right, you've both been through so much just to get pregnant, and now she has to live through the tragedy of birthing her little bubba who wasn't ready to be born.
You're a fantastic friend, like the others said, just being there to support her will mean the world to her. Take care of her and yourself too.
xxx
I am so sorry to hear what your friend is enduring
She will still need you as you will understand her in a way that her other "closer" friends may not. Take care and sending some warm squishy cyber your way xxoo
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She's only 22 weeks - Updated - A little boy is here!
I am crying too now.. That is so sad.. Even though you are only friends through your TTC journey, don't underestimate what you may mean to her.. Just because she has "closer friends" with her doesn't mean she wont need you.. The more support the better. (Also just because they are closer friends doesn't mean they are supportive. I had the most ridiculous things said to me by a couple of 'close' friends) If you are unsure, send her a card to say you are thinking of her and her family. Then just check in with her every few days and understand she may or may not want to talk but it will be nice for her to know someone cares.. Let us know how you go with your friend.. It is very unfair
. that is heartbreaking, i cant even imagine what she's going through!
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