She's only 22 weeks - Updated - A little boy is here!

**Bumperstump Cummerbund** · December 2nd, 2009, 07:44 AM

My friend, who's been trying to fall pregnant for 18 months, is currently in hospital giving birth to her 22 week old baby.

She was the first person I found IRL who truly understood LTTTC, as she and her husband were also living it. I was so ecstatic when she told me she was pregnant, only to lose her first at 10 weeks. I tried hard to distract her when she got to 10 weeks this time, and we both sighed with relief as the milestone passed uneventfully.

I saw her just a couple of weeks ago, and she was rubbing her belly and being kicked, and so excited. 2 days ago she went into hard and fast labour, and the doctors managed to stop it, putting her on complete bed rest for the remainder of her pregnancy, which was supposed to last a hell of a lot longer than 2 days.

*VENT*

Isn't it enough that we have to go through so much just to GET pregnant?! She should've been able to feel safe! She'll never be able to enjoy a pregnancy now! I would give ANYTHING to save her baby, I can't stand to know she's in so much pain.

....I don't know what else to say, I'm sobbing at the moment. I have to go to work but I'm gonna be crying all day. I'd go to the hospital but she has closer friends there - we're only friends through our TTC journey. I have so much emotion running through me, I feel like I'll explode

**Spring Angel** · December 2nd, 2009, 07:50 AM

Oh hun, this is just so sad to read. I feel you pain and that of your dear friend. I am so sorry they couldn't hold off labour any longer.

It just doesn't seem fair.

Lv Spring

**Jennifer13** · December 2nd, 2009, 02:08 PM

I'm so sorry your friend is going through this.

**blessedatlast** · December 2nd, 2009, 07:54 AM

I am crying too now.. That is so sad.. Even though you are only friends through your TTC journey, don't underestimate what you may mean to her.. Just because she has "closer friends" with her doesn't mean she wont need you.. The more support the better. (Also just because they are closer friends doesn't mean they are supportive. I had the most ridiculous things said to me by a couple of 'close' friends) If you are unsure, send her a card to say you are thinking of her and her family. Then just check in with her every few days and understand she may or may not want to talk but it will be nice for her to know someone cares.. Let us know how you go with your friend.. It is very unfair

**Butterfly Child** · December 2nd, 2009, 08:07 AM

Aww hun

. that is heartbreaking, i cant even imagine what she's going through!
RIP Angel xx

**feeb** · December 2nd, 2009, 08:12 AM

So sorry to hear this about your friend, that is very sad, Don't underestimate how much she will need you.

Hugs to you and your friend.

xoxo

**diannescruffy** · December 2nd, 2009, 08:28 AM

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend's baby. Big

to you.

Regards,
Dianne

**Turkish Delight** · December 2nd, 2009, 08:37 AM

SG.

I feel for your friend. Life is SO VERY UNFAIR.

Wishing your friend lots of love during this very difficult time.

You are a good friend my love. Just be with her and support her. Be the shoulder that she can cry on...

xxoo

**Queen** · December 2nd, 2009, 02:03 PM

Your poor friend

My heart aches when I read stories like this

**onthefly** · December 2nd, 2009, 02:05 PM

So sorry for your friend

**Inanna** · December 3rd, 2009, 11:38 AM

This is good news SG...

If the baby can stay inutero for another 2 weeks the baby statistically has a 40% chance of survival (that is based on stats at the RBWH Qld). Each week the stats increase greatly. So let's all hope and pray that her body can hang on a while to this precious little boy.

Her decision to let her son go if he is born soon is a Courageous and painful one. I understand why she has chosen that & I am in awe of her strength.

I wish I could just squeeze her hand for her & tell her we are all praying for her. She is going through an unspeakably challenging time.