Oh dear
It's bloody annoying. Neither of them seems to care overly how you're feeling about things either, and I'm sorry to hear that. You're pregnant - you need care and attention, not stupid rules and fob offs. How can they both be right? - well the can't be, but they can both be wrong. You don't have to justify yourself to either of them - you're an intelligent woman and you know best how you feel. I agree with Clover - you do what you're comfortable with.

Light brown spotting is usually nothing to worry about. All the best