I think the biggest thing here is really that its a huge gaping difference between your mentality as a parent when you have not been touched by sids to when you have.. I do not mean that offensively at all!! I had 5 children before my niece passed away, and while I knew of SIDS and was scared of it, I would read the literature, then read some more here and there and formulate the best way I knew to protect my children from SIDS. I felt comfort in what I read to what I was doing. Hypothosies worked for me. It was just another something I could add to my arsenal of information to protect my babies.

I have only had one since then - and nothing, absolutely nothing sets my mind at ease. I sit in the same room on my bed next to her during every single daytime nap. If I have to be doing something else then I am walking into the room every 5 minutes. I don't fall asleep - I simply pass out from exhaustion while watching her sleep.

Nothing short of tested and retested unequivocal proof will ever set my mind at ease again.



However the real problem with going on about the red tape of red nose day and putting a downer on research foundations is that it is ignoring the work that they do to help and support families who have lost a child.