With DD1 I refused. At 8 months I had a tiny sip of DH's Rum & coke just to taste it again. That was it.

With DD2 I had 3 or 4 drinks for New Years. Over the day & night, so spread out.
& I had a glass of champers at a christmas party, one with Christmas lunch, & 2 on my 21st.

With DS I went to a wedding at 13 weeks. I had one ****tail with a friend I hadn't seen in months & at the reception I think I had 2 glasses of white with lemonade to water it down.
I also had a half nip of Rum & coke in a middy at work one night as I was really upset after a fight between DH & I. I worked at a pub & was bawling all over the place, so the other barmaid got it for me.

So I had the odd drink. Red is supposed to be beneficial, so I'm naughty coz I had spirits, but all my kids are perfectly healthy. Of course I never had enough to feel anything, but the few I did have didn't hurt.

Now I look like an alco!