That is the most annoying thing. I can't believe people do that. I am trying hard to keep my names quiet as there is a girl I know who is 6 weeks ahead of me and Im sure she'd do the same. I feel for you, and I would keep the name and use it anyway. You can always tell them you discussed names last year and you are the one who mentioned it. But dont be put off, you may not see her much in the future, so it wouldn't matter if your kids had the same name. xo