Hi,

I really need some advice and help right now. Having just discovered that we're expecting our first child last Sunday, I've been placed in a really interesting situation this evening.

My Father-In-Law (FIL) was planning a family holiday in Australia in April that involved flying to the location. DH & I haven't showed a great deal of enthusiasm in the last few weeks because we were TTC and thought I may be pregnant at the time of the holiday. (We are both very conscious of not flying in the 1st Trim, or, if it can be helped - not flying at all during pregnancy). As it turns out, I AM preggas, but will be in the 2nd Tri by April.

Anyway, FIL left a message tonight saying that he didn't get enough response re that trip, so now he wants to take us to the USA in January 2008 (Winter-time)! I'm flipping out here because our baby will not even be 3 months old! I don't want to be travelling on a 16+hr flight! Let alone sharing a unit/house with 6 other people when I'm trying to get settled and breastfeed etc!

This is my situation - we are only just pregnant and had not planned to tell any family until the 3mth mark (1st grandchild - can't expect them to keep quiet), and now I feel my whole lovely week has crashed because I cannot for the life of me think of a good enough reason to give them (other than preg) why we can't go in Jan. The pressure's on because FIL wants to make bookings etc.

I need some counsel - what is a 2.5mth old baby like and how are you (mum) like at that stage? Should we try and pursuade them to do the April option again?

I just hate the thought that we're going to have to tell them sooner than planned - that it's in their control, not ours. If we could even get to the 8 wk mark, that would be better. I don't even know how to stall them.....

Just trying to stay calm and not get stressed! Would LOVE your thoughts Mums, Dads, Anyone