strong opinions on finding out the sex of your baby

**Calluna** · February 24th, 2012, 12:13 PM

Seriously? WTF is wrong with people. That's crazy.

We had a few People ask and look at us weird when we said we weren't finding out, but people actually get angry about it? That's... odd.

We had the name thing though. Told GMIL that we had chosen "Isaac" for our boys name and she said "oh no you cant call him that! That's horrible. He'll get called Zac!" We did anyway and she called him by his second name for a year and a half!

**Silver Bell** · February 24th, 2012, 01:31 PM

Thanks for all your support guys... I feel better now. I totally get why people want to keep it a surprise.. and that's great... I would never react or push my view on anyone and I guess I just expect the same back.

Oh and the name thing... man no one should say anything about the name you have chosen... that is cruel too! I wont be telling anyone my names until the baby is in my arms! They wont be able to try and get me to 'change my mind' when its done on on the birth certificate!!!

damn stupid people!

love to you all! x

**buffy1** · February 24th, 2012, 03:46 PM

A bit late, but definitely not over-reacting SB. People can be so judgmental. We copped it from a few people too.

I think as soon as you get pregnant (engaged, even!) people feel the need to give you all sorts of unsolicited family planning and parenting advice as if your life and relationships were now public!

Ignore them, they're projecting their own opinions and values on your choices. Pffffffffffffffft!

**fromscratch** · February 24th, 2012, 04:13 PM

Wow! I'm so sorry to hear your family and friends are giving you a hard time about finding out the gender of your baby.
That seams so petty in the grand scheem of life.

We are having the opposite reaction as we have not found out. When asked what we are having I say "a baby!" It's noone elses buisness. We wanted the babys gender to be a surprise for us. Besides we have one child of each gender so what ever we get it a bonus.

It's noone elses buisness wether you find out or not, as for writing an email to deter you from finding out.....well I have nothing nice to say about that other than tell him to mind his own buisness.

**LuluHB** · February 24th, 2012, 04:55 PM

I think people should mind their own business and keep their opinions to themselves.

I got huge amounts of drama from my ILs because I refused to tell them DD2's sex. Nobody but my mum and my lovely belly buddy friends knew I had found out DD1's sex so that was ok, but they all knew that I found out DD2's sex but I refused to tell any of them until she was born. My DH hadn't wanted to find out, so I refused to tell anyone else the sex of our baby until my DH knew first, which meant after her birth. They were furious.

I'd just be telling them all to sod off. Your baby. Your choice. Sadly though it seems that from the second your pregnancy is known, everything has an opinion on everything and so many people seem to be offended when you don't take their advice.

**BlackRose** · February 24th, 2012, 04:59 PM

I had the same reactions so we told people we weren't finding out and then found out and kept it to ourselves.

**Silver Bell** · February 27th, 2012, 11:36 AM

Thanks everyone... I am standing firm on my decision...

To top it off, on the weekend we saw her again and she said 'so you’re NOT finding out the sex right???' I told her I hadn't changed my mind. so she turned around and said 'well when I get the call to say he/she has arrived don’t expect me to be excited'

wow thanks!!!! Seriously after everything I have been through to get here and with everyday of this pregnancy a blessing how dare you make me feel guilty about any decision I make!

Anyhoo enough of my whining....

thanks again all.

**Calluna** · February 27th, 2012, 12:29 PM

Omg! Who says that!?
It sounds like you are better off without her.

**Silver Bell** · February 27th, 2012, 01:38 PM

I wish Heva&Zacky but she's my sister in law... I wish it was that easy to not see her again but that wont be able to happen for me!

**Calluna** · February 27th, 2012, 02:56 PM

**Purple Penguin** · February 27th, 2012, 04:09 PM

How horrible of her

**LuluHB** · February 27th, 2012, 04:40 PM

How about you DON'T call her the day your gorgeous bundle arrives. Then when she gets upset about that (cos she will!) you can just say, oh didn't think you really cared seeing as you know what gender he/she was going to be, so I called other people who were excited and wanted to know.

**xXHopeXx** · February 27th, 2012, 06:46 PM

How about you DON'T call her the day your gorgeous bundle arrives. Then when she gets upset about that (cos she will!) you can just say, oh didn't think you really cared seeing as you know what gender he/she was going to be, so I called other people who were excited and wanted to know.

I would

Sent from the land of "iSomethings" so forgive me for any spelking misstaks

**~Serenity~** · February 27th, 2012, 10:16 PM

Yeah i would too, she sounds like a right cow

Sent from my iphone, so may not make sense

**~*familyof3*~** · February 27th, 2012, 10:41 PM

I agree i wouldnt call her either. Thats just plain rude for anyone to say let along your sil whom knows your history

sent from my galaxcy so please excuse the spelling

**Silver Bell** · February 28th, 2012, 06:57 AM

good idea.... I have already decided not to invite her to my baby shower, well my sister did because she is throwing it for me and is so angry with what my sis in law said... so good call... she wont be getting a call from us... but if DH caves she will be the very LAST on the list, she will probably hear from my mother in law before she hears from us!

thanks girls, your the best!

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