That's not silly at all... infact, when you are catching yourself having these thoughts you need to understand that it is all a form of emotional & mental preparation for becoming a mother/family. Would you have pondered these dilemmas three months ago? probably not. You are on the path

I'm from Melb (now live in Syd) & both my sisters (who are still there) managed to join fabulous 'play/mothers' groups... Belly Belly is a great place to start gathering information & sorting out how you feel about different aspects of this journey but once you concieve & begin choosing Ob's/midwifes/hospitals & general pre-post natal care you will have access to loads of different people in the industry. Local community centres will be running courses, hosptals will run work shops & courses & if you ask the right questions you will be able to source out pretty much anything you need.

Also, just being pregnant seems to attract maternal connection.... i have had some pretty indepth conversations with strangers in the supermarket check-out line. Everything you need will present itself.

Some friends will inevitably fall-away but you won't really care because your priorities will change very swiftly. Everything will work out as it should Good luck to you both!