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  1. #1
    Registered User

    Jun 2007
    Forster NSW
    1,444

    I know how you feel Poopie! My family is the ones who think no kids are better than having kids and no matter how old your are you are never old enough! When I told my mum with DD she said 'How far gone are you?!' I was so upset, I didn't tell my fam we were trying with her as I didn't want to hear the constant lectures about it! This time I made sure the moment DD was born I was telling EVERYONE what sort of a gap we were wanting so they weren't so shocked. (I wont even go into my dad's reactions with DD, it was so bad this time I decided to do it by email!)

    I VERY much doubt this wont be the same for you, I have the worlds most unsupportive family, even though I love them to bits as they do me and they now couldn't imagine life without their greaddaughter.

    I'd be sure to make a big fuss about how excited you are and how much it all means to you. Try to be confident so they know just how you feel about it all. I don't like using the words "I'm preg" when telling family, so with the first I put it something like, "we are so happy to be starting a family of our own"

    I wish you all the very best. Even if they are a little hessitant, they will be happy, everyone loves to have a baby in the fam, even the boys!!!

    Take care

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    Hork-Bajir Valley
    5,722

    Good luck with it!!
    Like Pish said, just say it proudly and strong and how happy you are. Even if they aren't excited straight away it will grow on them =)
    My mum always tells me the story about when she told her mum she was pg with me, it was a month or so after their wedding and all grandma did was nod and go 'thats nice dear'. the next day after they left they got a phone call from grandma over the moon and crying she was so happy for my parents. It was only because she had had a chance to look at the calander and saw that yes, i was concieved after the wedding that she was ok with it =)
    but if you and your husband are happy and it is what you want then thats all that really matters.
    good luck!! and congrats!!!!

  3. #3
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jun 2009
    Sydney, NSW
    2,140

    'thats nice dear'.
    LOL! My Mum says "that's nice dear"

    I worked out that my MIL was conceived prior to the grandparents wedding. Nan was a rebel.

  4. #4

    Aug 2009
    Yarra Valley, Victoria
    1,215

    Pish -they are great words to say, im not sure i'd be able to blurt it out and say "im pregnant" so thats a great way around it!

    mzcatieboo - oh that would suck, such a negative response the first time round. Glad they are happier with the second one

    Thanks for all your great responses!! Im feeling a little less scared having a bit of an idea of what we will say now When we told dhs sister the other day, we were really excited and she just guessed so we didnt end up saying much until she asked lots of questions. Im hoping this excitment hangs around when we tell the folks.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Oct 2007
    Middle Victoria
    8,924

    What about asking if they have any plans for next June/July/Winter? And then say cos we have a bub on the way who needs a grandma and grandpa...

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Oct 2006
    Perth
    3,299

    Have you had an ultrasound yet? Maybe you could give them a picture from the scan. Tell them this is the first picture of their grandchild

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    Hork-Bajir Valley
    5,722

    where are you doing it?
    like are you just rocking up to their place and doing it or have you organised to have dinner or something?