Telling the Folks

[HotI]

What about asking if they have any plans for next June/July/Winter? And then say cos we have a bub on the way who needs a grandma and grandpa...

[Laranna]

Have you had an ultrasound yet? Maybe you could give them a picture from the scan. Tell them this is the first picture of their grandchild

[~TT40~]

where are you doing it?
like are you just rocking up to their place and doing it or have you organised to have dinner or something?

[Asparagus and Lemons]

Kate - Another great idea!! love it!

Eluned - Nah, unfortunantly no ultrasound pics yet, but that would have worked really well.

Teirae - We have my parents and siblings coming over for dinner tomorrow night for dh's birthday and plan to do it then.. so we have to tell my siblings as well. And with dh's parents we are going to their house for arvo tea

[nattyfred]

Hi, Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I love the idea of the ultrasound picture but if you dont have one maybe you could buy your folks a card and write something nice like an announcement in it and present it to them, that way they could absorb it while they read it and you can be there but not feel so put on the spot. Good luck!

[ss_storm]

Firstly congrats

I so didnt want to tell my parents as I knew exactly how they would react (and it wasn't exactly positive..). We told MIL almost as soon as we found out because we knew she would be so excited and very supportive, which is what we needed before we told my parents who weren't exactly thrilled about it (told them at about 12 weeks..I think I told my boss at work before I told my own mother!). We just said "we have some news for you..." and then told them, I think it was easiest that way, to get it out in the open as quickly as possible! Then we just said we are very happy about it, and would like you to be happy for us as well.

My parents did get better about it as time went on, my dad is still a bit indifferent but is getting better with time and my mum is excited to be a grandparent (although it probably does make her feel old...she only just turned 50!). They are a 6 hour drive away, so we don't see them that often, I think sometimes the distance is a good thing! On the bright side it means DD can grow up (hopefully) knowing her great grandparents, and she also has a great great grandma who she has met!

You'll have to let us know what happens!

[Asparagus and Lemons]

Hey everyone, thought I'd let you all know how it went,
Friday night we told my parents. I told my mum that i had a new addition to the spare room and she should go have a look.. (it was a cot)
She came out and said.. "oh thats so cute! .. but what are you going to do with it?"
after a while of her trying to figure it out she burst into tears and cried for a while, then i cried, then dh started to cry because i was crying.. but then she ran down and sat next to me with a MASSIVE smile on her face, gave me a big hug and yelled.. "Im GOING TO BE A GRANDMA!!!"
So.. she was happy. my dad didnt say much but he was happy, and congratulated us.
We told Dh's parents on saturday night. I was going to do it, but then realized.. nope, cant do it, so i gave dh the go-ahead. So he started to talk about mil's best friend whos daughter had just had a baby. He said "so does *** like being a grandmother?.." "yeah coz your going to be grandparents next year"
Bit of a silly way to say it.. but it worked and MIL shouted for joy and said.. "its about time somebody did!" FIL just said "oh" and didnt congratulate us or anything. but I just ignored him and it didnt bother me much..

So thanks for all your help, we are thinking of putting our first ultrasound in everybodies christmas cards to let the rest of the world know.