i had no issue with healing - i don't even recall any stinging/pain after about the first two days. i was offered pain relief in hospital but had one lot of panadol & that was it. i didn't find it difficult to clean in the shower or painful when i did so. they had prepped me for a c-section so i'd had an epidural before the epi was done so i can't comment on the pain of the epi itself. i'm pretty sure we'd resumed DTD within 8-12 weeks but can't remember now! it was a little uncomfy at first but nothing painful & i've had no pain or issue since.
Oh yeah, forgot all of that, but that was pretty much the same for me too. Except I didn't have the epidural, the ob gave me a local before he gave me the episiotomy.

Wanted to add too, if this is the path you end up taking, DO NOT let your DH be at that end of the bed when this is taking place!!!!!!! DH happened to be there and he freaked