I had an epi with DD1. I didn't have an issue with it. She was in distress and by the time the on call OB got to me for a caesar it would have been too late. Sure it hurt afterwards but it was only for three days. I healed fine down there and we were DTD 6 weeks later. I could lift things, I could drive. I was so grateful to my midwife that she made that call and at the time I didn't care what they did as long as my baby was safe. My friend who tore had a worse time recovering than I did and all my friends who've had CS had a much worse time recovering than I did. Each to their own though. Like a PP said, do your research and don't go by people's experiences because different people if put in exactly the same situation will experience it differently. Pain thresholds differ etc. The actual process of the epi wasn't a problem for me. I had local down there and didn't feel any pain. Two pushes and she was out after four hrs of pushing prior to that (she was posterior).

PakRakMG my hubby burst into tears when he saw the midwife do mine. He really shouldnt have beem looking hehe. I was perfectly fine with no idea what was going on. And he does not cry easily.

Arimeh's Eden made a good point though. Epi = may happen with no guarantee of scarring (I have no scar there, I've looked ) versus c-sect = will happen and will scar. good luck with whatever decision you make. Birth is such an individual thing x