those who have finished having kids

[Queen]

Hey all,
DH and I always said two kids was enough. Now we have two, DH got the snip, I won't say I do not think "but, but, but" I do get over it though
I sometimes think maybe I DO want one more, but then I realise I love staus quo.

[Pinny-mum]

I'm, the same as you Hollo, I just not sure, more than happy with two for us and lifestyle but that PANG...it's there. The sleepness nights bring me back down to reality and having tow can be hard, so three or four must be even harder.

I have actually avoided reading this thread coz when I read the title I thought, No that's not me...but Dh is pretty sure he doesn't want anymore and I am coming to terms with it. But I won't let him do anything permanent just yet....Never say never is my motto at the moment

[Fleur]

I have to say, it's good to hear I'm not the only one with a 'pang' still...seems it might be pretty normal, which I think will make it easier for me to accept not having more.

Sorry, didn't want to hijack but just wanted to say that

[Tinsel]

Before DD2 was born I was thinking that a third would be lovely and I still have the pangs even though DD2 is nearly 5 months old. DH is adamant that we are having no more (although I know he would like a boy) but he won't get the snip and there is no way I am having the op. I tell him maybe in a couple of years when the girls are bigger but we will be 'old' then and I really need some sleep

A friend had her baby boy the other day and I loved remembering the whole pregnancy and birth of the girls and how tiny they were.

We know that two is good for us but you just never know what is going to happen.

[Jaycee]

I get that pang now, I only have the one and said for a long time that I was only having one, but sometimes I wonder what life would be like with 2.

My biggest fear is that Jake would feel unloved or pushed to the side with all the time that needs to be spent looking after a new born, and I guess also that I wouldn't love the next one as much as I do Jake, I couldn't imagine loving another living creature as much as I do him.

Oops, sorry, didn't mean to hijack your thread with my problems, just wanted to let you know that I too have that pang, which does seem to be happening more often these days!

[Lolli]

Interesting thread. I have said all along- No more than two! But dd is being such a pleasure at the moment, and I'm actually suprising myself with how well I'm doing with two under two...

Logically, I know two is enough, but it's nice to have the option

[Turkish Delight]

Nope. No urges or twangs or cluckiness for me. i don't even like holding some babies and never go goo-goo-ga-ga at some of them. I definitely know that i am done. There is only one baby in my life atm which i adore to death...BR's little man, other than him nope don't like babies

[BloominRoses]

Nope. No urges or twangs or cluckiness for me. i don't even like holding some babies and never go goo-goo-ga-ga at some of them. I definitely know that i am done. There is only one baby in my life atm which i adore to death...BR's little man, other than him nope don't like babies

And he loves his Auntie TD very much!! (And misses her too...)

As for me, I think I'm done. Although DS is only 3 months old, I'm 34 and single, and having grown up as an only child I think there are a lot of special and unique things that I had the chance to experience that I'm not sure I would have had I had siblings. Part of it was a financial thing, and I was lucky my parents were able to cater to my little desires, but a larger part was the amount of time and knowledge my parents were able to gift to me without having to also take another child's needs and feelings into account.

Of course, 6 days after DS was born I was going on about how I'd love another child. However, considering I'm currently sick and sleep-deprived struggling to deal with one unsettled baby, I can safely say my earlier desire for another one can only be chalked up to major after-birth shock/nonsense lol.