I had this issue with my DP after my 1st baby... It wasnt until we thought we couldnt have kids again that he realised he wanted another... At that time we spoke of several kids but now after #2 he's a bit reserved once again. I think men take a lot longer to see what they want.You said you;d like a third in 18 months to 2 yrs...Maybe by this time your DH will have a clear idea in his head about what he wants... I'd suggest enjoying the 2 for now and taking things slowly for now so you dont get your hope up for nothing.
Going through it right now DD was a more difficult newborn (cried more) than DS and has scared DH off any more. But he does occassionally talk about a 3rd, so I'm trying to convince him. hehe.
One thing I had to keep reminding DH of when going for #2 was that DS would be much older by the time the baby arrived. I'm sure in his mind he puts another baby into our current situation, so I'm working on telling him how different things would be in another years time. DS would be at preschool one day a week and nearly 4 yrs old, and DD would be a toddler too. It would be completely different to having all 3 right now, if that makes sense.
DH knows how much I want #3 and I think he would cave for me, but he needs to be ok with it, because we have had bonding issues with DD coz he couldn't stand her screaming. Thankfully he's seeing a more playful side to her lately and I could see a little sparkle in his eye with her the other day which was lovely to see. So hopefully once he's fully in love with his daughter he'll be happier to have #3.
Good luck. At least you don't have a definite no. Something to work on
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DD was a more difficult newborn (cried more) than DS and has scared DH off any more. But he does occassionally talk about a 3rd, so I'm trying to convince him. hehe.
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