Ive been eating raw prawns marinated and cooked on the BBQ (hot) - No problems so far, I think heat kills any sort of bacteria that can harm our babies, im going to put my already smoked xmas ham in the webber and cook it a little more too which i think will be fine.
BTW Caro - I totally agree with you with being over the top! I think if you are sensible and eat what you feel like, but also don't be silly and eat raw oysters from a dodgy place etc we will be fine.