Jenna, I think there might be some truth in what your Mum said LOL - one of my brothers is a Jason and Holy Moly! From the moment he was born he was a handful of a child, had more lives than a cat and as a teen he was one more court appearance away from remand. Nearly did Mum's head in. But he did grow up and turn out OK in the end.

Angela, there is every chance that this babe will be totally different to what P was/is. That's just the way the genetic lottery works and there is nothing you can do about it. The baby may well end up being a lot more high maintenance and needing you a lot more than P did but I think that had your mother not said anything like that to you, that this wouldn't be an issue for you at all. My first baby was a truly Awesome Baby. He did everything that all *good* babies are supposed to do and has a gorgeous personality that is kind, gentle and considerate - not like a boy at all LOL. But then I had DD1 and she was a very high maintenance baby - cried all the time because she wanted to be where the action was all the time and hated being a baby I think because once she started crawling it all stopped. This is just her personality because she is still a highly emotional, high needs child and nothing at all to do with being the second born. She was also a handful as a toddler, but then so was our next DD and OMG DS2 puts the two of them to shame ROFL - he's incredible.

And if this baby is different in personality and needs to P, then you just deal with it, you have to kwim? You will meet this babies needs like you met P's needs and though it might be in a different way to what you did with P, it doesn't make any difference to anything. Even now we have to parent all 4 of our kids differently because they need to be because of their personalities mostly, but even if she was the same as P, it doesn't mean that you can do everything the same as you did with her, if that makes sense. Not only that, things are much easier to cope with once you have the second bub as you have a hell of a lot more confidence in your ability to do the right thing.