3.5 weeks for DD and 5 weeks for DS as i kept getting negatives with internet cheapies.
An old friend was 11 weeks with her son and 8 weeks with her daughter.
My SIL didn't know with her first until she went into labour at 38 weeks.
A woman who gave me first aid when i fainted at a bistro a week later found out she was 7 months pregnant, she honestly didnt look it she was quite slim.
a good friend of mines DIL had no idea until she fell off a horse and went to the hospital. they think she was term (due to bubs behaviour) but really have no idea exactly how far along she was.
I have found out before AF with all my pregnancies. With Moo I couldn't understand how that happened as he gave me such a hard time, he was so active! Then when I was pregnant with Buster I could see how people might find out much later as he gave me no trouble at all!
With DD I didn't find out until about 3 months in - I'd missed a couple of periods, wondered about it but chalked it up to being stressed (I was being sexually harassed at work and was fighting with management at the time) and thought nothing of it. Went to the Dr after missing the third and she insisted on my taking a pregnancy test "just to rule it out" - nearly fell off the chair and burst into tears when she said it was positive.
I couldn't understand with either of them how people would not know, they were both very active babies and I tend to get horrid morning sickness from about week 11-12 for the rest of the pregnancy. Talk about being backwards hey?
No me personally, but someone I knew didn't until she went to the hospital with bad stomach cramps and was in labour. We had all been looking at her thinking she'd gained alittle weight, and there was one moment when I thought her belly looked round like a pregnant person.
I'm not sure she wasn't in a little denial though because of various things going on in her personal life at the time andleading up to it.
Id be curious to know in alot of the late term surprise cases how many of the women were using birth control. Even using birth control I was always paranoid about pregnancy, but it was drilled into me no birth control meant you could ALWAYS get pregnant no matter how often you have sex, how old you are etc.
I can believe that someone might not know until 20wks or so, especially in a first pregnancy; no way do I believe it *never* crossed their minds when they were what ended up being term. Even the most languid babies can pack a mean kick and it would have me running for a full body scan if that were me! I truly think there is always an element of denial somewhere deep down.
Freya - Having never experienced it myself, I agree with you - I just don't know how it couldn't have crossed someone's mind or there was nothing that happened to make them suspect.
I was told of a girl I played sport against who played that day and ended up in hospital with stomach cramps that night and had a baby. She was quite young - perhaps just finishing or out of high school, so I always wondered whether it was more 'denial' than not knowing....
I get it. I was still wearing my size 10 jeans long past 20w. I have feelings when I'm not pregnant that feel exactly like I remember kicks and tumbles although they obviously are not. All you then need is to skip morning sickness instead of periods.
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