I know someone who didn't find out till 14 weeks - she thought she had a hernia and when she had a scan to confirm they found a baby instead. She was a woman who had been married for well over 10 years already by that point and her and her DH didn't want kids so it was a huge surprise for them. My own mum didn't have her last pregnancy confirmed until she was 20wks. She was 38 and she thought she was starting to go through menopause. As for me, I had a suspicion with my first because I just felt so wretched and it was the only thing it could be. We weren't trying either as we'd only just gotten married and we wanted to wait a while. But it would have been about 5 weeks and I had it confirmed at 6 weeks.
To scared to test with my 1st incase it was positive so when I went to the Dr I was 8-9weeks although I expected a week after AF didn't arrive. With no2 I had no idea or suspicion when I accidentally found out at 6weeks and with the rest I was just under 4weeks as I was trying with them so that made the difference. I can understand how people wouldn't know but also think a lot of cases of I don't know aren't genuine. I was a midwife when a young girl delivered at home of a term baby. She had no idea until the baby was half out. The Dr told her when she was 5months pregnant she was not pregnant just fat.
At work recently a 48yr old found out she was pregnant when she was around 20ish weeks. The dr told her he must have ovarian cancer and raced her for an emergency scan but turns out the abnormal growth was a baby lol. Her husband and grown up children raced to be with her when they found out.
I knew at 3 1/2 weeks with mine, but my mum didn't know until she was 5mths with me. I was a placenta previa baby and my mum would still get AF every month (or what she thougth was AF but was more than likely breakthrough bleeding from the placenta position), she went to the Dr because she didn't know why she was feeling so wretched. I was born at 8mths gestation so a very quick 3mth pregnancy for my mum, added to the fact she spent the last 3 weeks before I was born in hospital confined to bed due to possible placental abruption.
My mum was 36 when she had me and my brother was 11 and my sister 8, so I certainly was a surprise baby
I was only 4 weeks but completely oblivious - thought I had a horrid hangover that wouldn't go away (and maybe a UTI from peeing alot) from a really really big weekend......aaaaah, memories of the last of my nightclubbing life!
I was nearly 7 weeks with my first. Went home sick from work at lunchtime one day and as I was driving home I suddenly felt better and it dawned on me - two weeks late for AF, my boobs were on fire, I was exhausted and now I was sick but only in the morning...
My DD1 wasn't much of a mover and I had no morning sickness. I remember saying to DH that I could see how people missed a pregnancy. If you had irregular cycles or there was a BC issue (like failed depo), I wouldn't be that surprised that people could miss it, especially up to the third tri and even after if you don't carry big.
My brother and his partner found out at 20 weeks. She had very irregular cycles so it wasn't uncommon to skip periods but thought after 4 months without one she should do a test and ta-daa. They were both workaholics and kids weren't on the cards, not to mention the fact my brother thought he was shooting blanks. At the scan they were told they had 2 days to make a decision to terminate or not before it was to late, needless to say I now have a very adorable 8.5 month old niece
The lady next to me when I had DD1 was 42 & thought the symptoms were menopause. Her other DD was 21. Noone picked up on it til she was in labour. Some babies are less active than others.
DD3 was my latest, at around 8 weeks. My period was all over the place, from 3 weeks to 8 weeks apart & had been like that since it returned when DS was 9 months old. Being unplanned I didn't pay any attention to any symptoms til I woke up one day & the smell of washing powder made me run for the toilet. M/s kicked it at about 6 weeks with all the others.
DS was my earliest at 3.5 weeks.
My MIL was also about 6 months with her 6th. She really didn't expect it! She was still getting AF til then.
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