When did you tell the family?

[Loupy]

Hi girls,

Well DH and I found out a week ago that we are finally pregnant and I'm absolutely dying to tell our families! We are having a 7 week scan in 2 weeks to see if there is a heartbeat, and DH wants to spill the beans then.

BUT I have a lot of social things on at the moment, and am finding it very difficult to try to make up stories as to why I'm not drinking "again". (My best friend is DH's sister, so all of my social gatherings include her!)

When did everyone tell their families - straight away, or did you leave it a while?

[Eng]

I told selected people at work cos I was so excited and I trusted them.

We told our parents at 6 1/2 weeks. When they told us they wanted to share the news.. So we rang all our family while we were all together and told everyone... Kind of made the pregnancy feel longer.

I did tell my dh cousin's wife because we are close (BFF's) friends at 5 weeks cos there was no point hiding it from her.. lol

This time around we will tell our parents around the same time again but we wont be telling anyother family until we hit the 12 week mark.

Depends on how comfy you feel. I was so excited and couldnt hold it! lol It took us 8 months to get our beautiful daughter.

Best of luck, wishing you a h&h pregnancy!

[Glamourcide]

We blurted to our mum about ten minutes after getting a BFP when I was pg with DD1. When I fell pg with DD2, I'd had a miscarriage between the pregnancies and was going through a really stressful time in my life, so I wasn't comfortable with sharing the good news until we were past the 'danger' zone and things had settled down (DD2 was conceived 3 days before MIL died, so we had a LOT going on over the next few weeks). So we waited until the 12-week mark to share

[Manhattan]

We told our parents, siblings and my 2 best g/f at 4 weeks. We couldnt hold it in any longer than that! We wanted them to share in our excitement from the start, and also wanted a support network if (heaven forbid) anything went wrong.

Wishing you all the best for a happy and healthy pregnancy, and good luck for your scan

[Oscar&Grouch]

i wish i had the opportunity to "announce" the good news.
call it mothers intuition but as i was sitting in the waiting room at my GP, my mum called me for a "chat" when she was gossiping away she asked where i was after telling her i was at the doctors (i absolutly did NOT mention anything) she said in one guess.

YOUR PREGNANT
now everyone who knows me knows i cant lie!

as for the rest of the fam we told them at about 12 weeks

[HotI]

We told the parents about 6 weeks. I had kind of avoided them before this because i can't lie and thought it might come out.

I told one sibling and their partner at about the same time because i had some spotting, they had previously lost bubs and i knew they would be supportive if we needed them.

I waited til after i had a scan to tell another sibling because they wouldn't be a great support, and i didn't want to have to support her if something happened. I would have waited longer but they were getting together with the parents and the sibling that knew, and i didn't want it to slip out and there be more drama because i hadn't told her.

So, there are reasons for telling, and reasons for waiting. We sort of based our telling on whether we would also tell that person if something went wrong with the bub. But it does get hard sometimes.

[Sammiejane]

We told my family at about 6 weeks, the day after Mums birthday, that way everyone was around and i wasnt telling one first kwim?
DH family was told later, around 10 weeks, maybe 12, cant rememebr now.

I told a friend early (after Mum and Dad) as she was about to go round australia and i didnt want to tell her on the phone. A couple of other friends new early...
one of my workplace knew at about 9 weeks as i am a nurse and i couldnt work with some patients pg. the other workplace i told at 14 weeks (my boss was away when i hit 12 weeks)

The other friends i told at 12 weeks and i was on a Liver clensing diet so i couldnt drink alcohol or any processed foods!!! that was the best and most plausable excuse we could come up with.
Most people were told after the 12 week scan thou

[helle]

We wanted them to share in our excitement from the start, and also wanted a support network if (heaven forbid) anything went wrong.

Same here.

We waited until the first blood tests came back though, to make sure that the pee-stick was indeed right and my HCG levels were at good levels.
I did let slip to Mum though before hand, because the day before our BFP we had just ordered my wedding dress and I was pretty sure the size I got wouldn't fit me at 6 months preg ><;

There really isn't a right or wrong time! And alot of different factors compell others to tell sooner or later than others. I'd just go with whatever you feel right with.

Congrats to you and your DH and here's to a happy and healthy 9 months!

[feeb]

When I was preg and had MC our parents knew and a few close friends of mine, and a few at work (as i started bleeding at work).

When preg with DS parents knew straight away i think DH rang my mum then his within 5 mins of POAS!! Then my closest friends knew in case I needed support if anything went wrong, work knew as time went on as people talk! and lots knew at DH work as he tod them, then everyone else after 19 week scan. Including our siblings

This time Parenst know and and my closest friends, DH work and some at my work (I only do work 1 day a week so havent seen many to tell them), rest of friends and siblings will find out after scan next week.

[willow5]

We weren't going to tell anyone until 12wks, but I got soooo sick we had to start telling people at about 9wks as I had run out of excuses for why I was so sick and couldn't even get out of bed

But it's your personal choice really whatever you feel comfortable with

Congratulations hope you have a happy healthy pg

[danniellabella]

We told our families as soon as we found out.

[Stevie]

i think we were about 6 weeks alonf when we told the parents. I told a few girls from work that i trusted around the same time coz i couldnt hold it in. Then we told everyone about 8 or 9 weeks i think. We just couldnt help it. I wanted to wait til 12 weeks coz i didnt wana have to explain if something went wrong.
But its really when ever you feel ready
Congrats btw

[smiles4u]

After having had early m/c's we chose to wait and told everyone when i was at the half way mark of the pregnancy ... also it was just before Xmas which gave everyone an early Xmas Gift ... I told my folks on Xmas Day by handing them an ultrasound pic of the bub & saying " Merry Xmas " to make it an extra special Xmas for them, my Mum was so beside herself with happiness & shock that she didn't know whether to laugh or cry ... as for Dad he couldn't stop grinning all day and already came up with a nickname that day for his grandchild

[principessa76]

Told my close workmate from when I got my BFP (I was pretty crook with m/s and needed her to help cover for me at work). Told everyone else including our families at 14weeks.

[LaDolceVita]

Firstly, CONGRATULATIONS!!

Our First Time, we told EVERYONE straight away! We were just soooo excited!! Then I miscarried Our second, we didn't tell anyone as when we only found out I was already miscarrying... So after 2 miscarriages I was a but sceptical about this bub! We told only immediate Family and very close friends pretty much straight away as we thought we wouldn't be able to hide it from them anyway, we have waaay too much to do with them all the time and if anything did happen, we might've appreciated them being aware and having their understanding and support - We had our 6 week scan, all good, a 9 week scan came back all good too but still being a bit wary we waited until after our 13 week NT scan came back with gleaming results and then we told the world!

So exciting! Wishing you all the best!

[Loupy]

Wow, thanks everyone!
Alicia, we also have alot to do with both of our families, and I am finding it increasingly difficult keeping it secret, it's driving me nuts!
Have heard back from my GP and my hcg levels are going great, thank goodness.
Now, to find a special way to tell everyone we're pregnant!! Any ideas there??