Thanks ladies you are certainly giving me the reality check I needed to be able to see it from the other side - I'm not even UTD yet but we are planning on TTC and am just a bit annoyed with most family and friends at the moment and their complete lack of interest in our family unless they need something so that is probably the reason behind what my rational brain says is probably a very selfish thing to do.
Just wanted to let you know that I totally understand how you feel and where you're coming from.

I've been let down by family in the past and felt (& still feel for some) that they didn't deserve to enjoy our excitement, especially only when it suits them.

xoxo