Firstly, let me say I think its really great that you are thinking about this and have put some safety nets into place to help you when your bubba arrives. Very wise thing to do.
I have found during this pregnancy that finding out what I was having, giving her and name and talking to her really helped me connect to my baby. I'm really excited to meet her and feel like I've shared a lot with her already - ridiculous things like asking my belly "What do you feel like for dinner? Shall we have some pasta?" But it helps make her feel "real".
I found it quite hard to deal with my difficult emotions without support - and I found two things immensely helpful. Flower essences and theta healing. Both were dramatic in helping me find the root of my emotional issue and then to heal it. There are practitioners for both around. PM me if you want more specific details. All the best in your journey.
I've been thinking on what to say to try and help, but I can't think of anything, i struggled a bit with my body image and the way everyone thought it was okay to touch or rub my belly, and i resented that so i was looking forward to having my body back so to speak.
At times i felt like i wasn't bonding or connected to my baby so i would like at the u/s pic and just remind myself that is my baby, and only me and dh can make one just this. I felt silly but sometimes i would talk to picture, like if i bought him some clothes, nursery equipment etc. it was easier to talk to a picture than my stomach.
It sounds like you have put some good strategies in place to help you deal with things this time round.
Good luck hun and remember we are always here xxx
LoriRae, good on you for having the foresight to recognise this and reach out for help, and to want to make things different this time
If you can, get a hold of a copy of a book called Birthing From Within. It is a really spiritual, wholistic approach to pregnancy and it contains lots of practical exercises and advice for really connecting with your baby and your pregnancy. It's often recommended as a "birth book" but I think it's so much more than that and I reckon you'd find it really helpful.
Do whatever makes you feel good while you're pregnant, talk to your baby and talk to your hubby, friends and other people you can trust about your feelings too. Often the second time around we are much more realistic about things, and understand what to expect from pregnancy much better and that alone makes things so much easier.
Big Hugs, LoriRae.
But it helps make her feel "real".
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