You're certainly not alone. We didn't have any scans/appointments scheduled between 12 and 20 weeks and by week 16 I was just like you. I rang my OB's rooms and they suggested I go in and see a midwife. She did a quick check up of me and we heard the heartbeat which was so very reassuring. I started feeling movements from 17 weeks which helped ease my mind immensly and now although I probably tend to worry a bit more than some of my non- IVF friends who are pregnant I have calmed down heaps with time. So I know it's so much easier said but done but do try to relax a little as the stress and worry isn't good for you and bub. I go to fortnightly acupuncture which works for me but any sort of gentle exercise, yoga etc might help you relax?
There is a forum for those of us pregnant after long term trying to conceive (LTTTC) which you may find helpful, it's a lifeline for me! Sorry I can't post the link, I'm on my phone.
Like everyone else has said you are definantly not alone. I had 9 miscarriages before this pregnancy and I spent probably the first 22 weeks anxiety stricken. Now I feel Little Miss here move all the time my anxiety has lessened, but I still don't think i will feel normal till she is in our arms.
I found weeks, 16-22 the hardest because I still was only seeing my OB monthly and I still hadnt felt her move, and I didn't have my 20 week scan till 22 weeks. but my morning sickness had just started to ease off.
Maybe see if you can get an early scan or dr's app to hear the heartbeat if you are really worried. I'm sure all is well and little he or miss is just happy swimming around in there growing enough to start bombarding you with sharp hard kicks in a matter of weeks.
Thank you everyone for all your advice, i feel better now. I know i am not the only one now who is worried and i guess its pretty much normal!
Cant wait till the next appointment when i find out i was just worrying for nothing..
Wow!! This thread is awesome!! I just found it. We are pregnant with our 2nd (17 weeks) after 5 years of trying. Admittedly I have not had to go through IVF or miscarriages.....but have been seriously stressing since about week 15. I don't feel pregnant and I am not real big yet.Felt a couple of movements around week 15/16 and not much since which I know is normal but still. I had some bleeding week11 and then again in week 14..my scan at 13 weeks was wonderful seeing bubba so healthy. But I think I must be highly paranoid cos of how long it took to conceive this bubba and I just stress about it going full term 24/7. Its nice to know I'm not the only one out there that feels like this. Has been a big pick me up to read!! You ladies are the BEST!!!
I think being a LTTTCer really puts the pressure on when you are waiting in between appointments. I had a scan at 16 weeks to check my cervix and it was far better than my 20 week scan (only cause baby was moving, and was sleeping at 20 weeks)
I guess at about 14-18 weeks you are still waiting for the movements ect and that what drove me insane.
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