Hi,

I am not a lttter but I couldn't read this post and not comment.

You shouldn't feel guilty at all about the way you are feeling, it is normal, especially when you have been together for so long as a couple. Having a baby is a huge huge changer and yes the honest truth is that it does impact your relationship a lot but as you said yours is strong and will be able to handle it and the impact isn't neccessarily a negative one. It creates challenges such as less time to the 2 of you, stress, adjusting to being a mum and dad not just bob and jane anymore but I also remember when ds1 was born it was like falling in love with my dh all over again, I just felt so in love and amazed by this beautiful baby we had created.

Having a baby, specially your first is huge and everyone is going to have anxieties about the things to come, it is normal and natural. As far as you fil coming is there anyway he could stay somewhere else? or is this something your are comfortable with? Are you comfortable with him there when you go into labour and with him being there when you bring home a baby, it can be a very emotional time bringing home a new baby and I really really strongly believe you need to have ppl there you are really comfortable with.

Wishing you the best for your labour and birth