Hi numa, such a tough decision. We have two boys, and like you i am forty and would love another baby....but i am just too tired!!! We dont have any embys on ice, so i cant imagine what a hard decision that would be. On one hand i would love to help another couple, but on the other, i would feel like my baby was out there, even though i dont consider the emby a life as yet. And, as you said, if it was a girl i would feel like it was the daughter i never had.

I hope you are able to come to terms with a decision. Bless. Xoxo.