I find the comment "nature did not intend for these babies to be born" appalling. As I am sure you ALL DO. :-)
A question: Does nature intend for babies to be conceived out of rape, drug addiction, domestic violence, one night stands, or to manipulate/entrap another party in a rel/ship?
I am sure that it would be most POLITICALLY INCORRECT to be scathing of the babies of THESE scenarios.
I agree LP! Which is why I feel so passionately that society's perception about AC and IVF needs to change. Because it seems like it's still okay for society to have a free swipe at IVF, IVF babies and IVF parents (of all races, ages and sexual orientations) I think it's less so for clomid or other forms of induced ovulation that are oupled with timed intercourse or IUI, but many still think of IVF as 'test tube' technology and therefore 'unnatural' and therefore 'undesirable'.
When I started IVF I also started a diary for my furture child, so when Kaitlan is old enough she will be able to read what we when though to have her as I don't think I could explain all the emotions to her, I also have a IVF box with everything I collected over the years as it was a big part of our lives.
And although Kaitlan was a natural conception I still class her as an IVF baby because if it was not for them and all their hard work she would not be here.
Hi everyone, I posted here long ago but have been busy ever since. We fell preg after our first ICSI cycle. We have had the same discussion at home. My DH is a very private person, only those close to us know we went through it, mainly because we don't want anyone's sympathy. I don't know if we will tell her or not, it just doesn't seem to be as important as having our beautiful miracle.
I think if it came up, we would tell her, but it would be difficult as our first DD was conceived naturally.
I think everyone is different and no one is wrong with what they think is right for their kids as each child and family is different.
I wouldn't really bring the topic of conception up (no matter how my child was conceived) unless my child asked me some questions about it.
If they were under the age of 6 I think I would be saying that mummy and daddy wanted you somuch and loved you so much that they had to get the doctor to help them put you in mummy's tummy or something like that. I think that it may confuse them to go into too much detail about IVF, etc
If your child is curious then they will ask more questions and there is nothing stopping you from answering them.
i don't think you need to go into detail at all - my niece had seem me taking tablets, and using injections for the ivf - when we got our BFP and told her i was pregnant, she understood that a Dr had helped me. for our Gremlin, i'm not going to hide what has happened. we will, most likely, need to use assisted conception to give the Gremlin siblings, so it will be a natural progression. i am not ashamed of using AC, and will not hide it. there is no need for graphic or confusing explanation. simply "we need help to make babies, so the doctor helps us" is more than enough for a young child. but if my now 8 year old niece asks for more info, i'll check with her mum what she knows of natural conception, and elaborate from there...
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