I am in a somewhat similar situation in that I have one snowbub left and DH is now saying he does not wish to go back for it. After a long journey to have my IVF son, Charlie, I cannot help but feel it is his sibling there waiting for me. DH says we have four children and can't manage anymore, but for me it's far more emotive than that.

I am waiting for DH to be in a more receptive mood to bring it up again. I do think these are things we need to talk to them about, and explain why we feel the way we do.

Good luck with it, Pheonix. This is not an easy decision no matter what.