Parenting after LT TTC #3

[butterfly_warrior]

Sam is much better now, KellyD, thanks so much for asking!

I'm finding things really hard with being back at work. I'm feeling slammed by everything at the moment, and really didn't think it would be so hard. I guess I kinda felt that it was just going back to the same school as before so the start of this year wouldn't be any different to the start of any other year... WRONG! I forgot that a whole year has progressed and things have changed. The kids I remember as year 10 are now year 12. The year 8 kids have no memory of me being a teacher in that school and so they are testing me out as a new teacher. Because I didn't have much to do with year 7 in my last year at school, they are pretty much in the same boat as the year 8s and are REALLY pushing the boundaries. Add to that trying to get my head around new technology and new ways of doing things... And then I have to come home and still me a mummy, and it's just way harder than I thought it would be. I'm glad that DH is only working one day per week as I just could not do the daycare thing every day of the week... maybe when Sam is older and likes it a bit more, but not right now.

But... DH and Sam got sick with a cold, DH added gastro to the mix which Sam fortunately didn't get and me... I'm feeling so lucky as I missed out on both, even with my compromised immune system! Week 4 has ended and I'm still well, but another teacher in my faculty dropped to illness today. I'm glad I wasn't the first.

Anyway, Sam is just being gorgeous. DH has some beautiful photos of him playing in the yard with garden tools. I drove to work today with Sam in the back trying to say his own name. Moments like these make all the years of hell and heartbreak so worthwhile.

BW

[onthefly]

Nice to hear from you BW - stay well

Thanks Smithy, you too

[Greenslw]

Thank you all for you comments, DS bladder infection has really upset me the last couple of days he started screaming in pain when he weed, so I went back to the GP not my normal one (he was a ****) So he's now on a dose of panadol too. I can't believe how much he's going through three times a day, I come at him with 4 siringes of stuff. Not what I expected.

BW going back to work would be so hard. I'm dreading it. I was going back on the 20/4 but now looking at June, although I'll see how I feel, a year would be great.

marcellus I've been having a look at milk protien transfer and it seams to be possible, I'm not going to do anything till I speak to my pediatrican but he does have alot more wind when I drink alot of milk or eat chease.

Neptune awww so cute

Murph I forgot congrats on DH job and I guess it's welcome to KI

smithy well done on the post

ATM DS is sleeping between feeds which is so good, without being in the sling and without being in my bed. I did leave the panadol a little long and he woke up screaming, I hope the antibiotics work soon, not happy about all the meds in his system.

Funny he seams to still require 8 feeds a day, he slept for 4 hours last night but this smorning woke up after two hours for a feed. Funny how his body is working. It's all amazing.

Oh he rolled over! from tummy to back without help. So great to see.

[Lenny]

BW - your new avvie is beautiful. It has taken until last week for DS1 to finally be 'ok' with me dropping him of at daycare (he does 3 hours one day a week). He didn't shed a single tear and actually waved at me. when i left. I nearly cried myself, i was so happy! Full-time would be super hard, especially as work is taking some time to get used to as well. Hope things start going more smoothly soon.

Greenslw - bladder infections are meant to be very painful for LOs. I hope the meds kick in soon. It's hard having them on ABs, but worth it when you see them improve.

Murph - thatns great about the job. And well done too on the photos to you and Neptune. I can never seem to find the time, and seeing as most of my family live outside Australia, they are constantly nagging me for pics.

Poppy - We call our little boy a barnacle baby (but velcro seems like a nicer term!). But it actually makes my life easier, if that makes sense. When he is with me in a sling or my arms or whatever, he cries less (and for shorter time) and so I feel better, and DS1 doesn't like the crying either so we are all happier. When DS1 was a baby I was always trying to put him down , and trying to get him to self-settle, which was heart-breaking and impossible. This time around I could care less what the 'experts' say - i'm doing what works for us right now. Sheesh, they are still so little, too young still for so called bad habits to be formed.

[barney]

ok girls PLEAASE HELP US...
charlie cant poo and is very constipated,we have changed her formula to a thickened formula in the last few days and now sh is doing very very hard little pebbly poos every couple of days and when she does she just screams from pain.
im giving her plenty of water ..i mean today shes had 200mls of water and has done every day BUT the poo she just tried to do was so big and hard its not even funny any more and i just dont know what else to do
im going to water down her bottles for the next few feeds and see how that goes and mum has just said to get something called COLOXAL DROPS tomorrow
but can you girls recomed me anything else to try as this is breaking my heart i cry just as much as she does when shes trying to poo
PLEAS PLEASE GIRLS ANY IDEAS ON WHAT I CAN DO NEXT.
tia love smithy and baby charlie.

[grub17]

hi girls. thought it had been quite... turns out i wasn't getting the notifications for some reason lol.

bw - oh that sounds like you are really still finding your feet as a working mum but what you said about Samuel tyring to say his name just made my heart swell. it's those moments isn't it! hang in there... it WILL get easier. you are a working mum - now that is a big ask so be gentle on yourself love.

green - a doc told me that ash might be lactose intolerant and to try him on a thing called Lactese.. apparently you mix breastmilk with it and it helps them digest the milk while they get their tummy enzymes worked out. We didn't try it because my instincts told me that wasn't ash's issue. Hope he starts to feel better soon love.

Acacia - how are you feeling love?

murph - congrats on the move and i just love Jazzy's cheeky little looks lol. Ash isn't a very smiley baby but gives plenty of cheeky looks like Jazzy. lol.

Lenny - lol. I'm not looking forward ot that 'growing up' stage! when they are happy for you to bugger off!

oh and with the crying thing/rod for your back ect. I get to ash before he starts to cry and life is pretty calm here. If i get it right at night he doesn't even really wake up, he just feeds and goes straight back to bed! It's a cross between demand feeding and dreamfeeding lol. Amazing how one squeak and I'm up! But i do tend to think my attentiveness means i don't have a very sooky bub. He really only cries when hes REALLY tired or REALLY hungry.

He seems to know that if he squeaks I'll come and so is happy to squeak for the most part. Mind you i let him have a bit of a 'whinge' the other day as i was in the middle of something in the kitchen and couldn't go to him straight away... he wasn't crying but his whinging was pretty noisy by the time i got there and there were tears!!! OMG talk about feel bad!

Okay best go. sorry i know i've missed lots of you on the persies but we must eat lol. Crup, looks like there's gong to be a very noisy party across the road. brh.

oxox

[grub17]

smithy -sorry love didn't see your post. all i can offer is a hug love. we had the opposite problem with ash thansk to bloody ABs.

hope someone else is more help love oxox

[Neptune]

Smithy - in my Baby Love book by Robyn Barker she suggests adding a small amount of sugar to the bottle of formula.....keep doing this until she poos then stop adding it.....I am off to check the amount of sugar......hang tight

[Neptune]

Ok Smithy - this author says to try this after you have tried extra water (which you have). She also says to make sure you are making the formula correctly, ie water first then add the powder.

Then she says don't do this for more than 24 hours - one small teaspoon of sugar to each bottle of formula until bubs does a good poo. When she poos, stop the sugar. she says bubs should poo pretty quickly cos it stimulates the bowel and is better than other medications.

She said if it is a crisis, then may need a suppository....you would obviously need to see a doc to do this.

After you sort this prob out you probably need to chat to someone about how to prevent it.

What is the reason she is on the thickened formula?? Also, some of the formulas are iron fortified and iron can bind little babies up.

Big hugs and hope the poor little mite is okay.

[Neptune]

Also parents help line 24 hours Tresillian 1800 637 357 australia wide

[Acacia]

Oh, Smithy hun It's awful when your baby is screaming in pain hun. I don't know much about formula but I was going to suggest sugar water, just until she does a poo. You can put about a half teaspoon of brown sugar dissolved in about 4oz of water. I've never done this myself, but I have been told that it can help.

Can you change back to the other formula she was on? Thickened formula can definitely cause or worsen constipation and maybe that's what has happened. It may mean that Charlie goes back to 2-3 hours feeds, but hopefully she won't be constipated and distressed

If it doesn't improve definitely see your GP hun and they might be able to give her something.

[Neptune]

In my rush to try and help Smithy, I forgot to say hello to everyone!

Hello everyone, hope all mumma's and bubba's are well.

Adam is 4 months old today. Little cherub.

Smithy you will laugh at this when Charlie is better; when I was looking up my book for you, I was looking up 'Smithy' in the index in the back of the book instead of constipation

[barney]

OH WOW NEPTUNE HUN THANKS HEAPS
ive actually been already adding a pinch of sugar to her water bottles ,thats also what mum told me to do and the thickend formula bit i changed her to that the other day when she wouldnt sleep properly as i though it may settle her a bit more and help with the wind problem and its actually worked wonders for me except this pooing problem so dh has just also recomended adding a little bit more water to the bottles ? as i make them to exactlly how it says on the tin ..omg i just cant stop stressing out now maybe i should go to the dr and see what she says then hey hun ? im really dredding the next poo my poor baby girl i just cant see her do that again breaks my heart .
i really do thank you for taking all that time to help me hun THANK YOU .
oh yeh and maybe should i use brown sugar or just the normal one cause ive just been useing the normal sugar ?..
aww acacia just read your post hun thanks heaps darlin ill try the brown then ..

[barney]

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Smithy you will laugh at this when Charlie is better; when I was looking up my book for you, I was looking up 'Smithy' in the index in the back of the book instead of constipation

im laughing already hun ,your such a gem i tell ya

[Neptune]

You're welcome......I'm just thinking too, a nice warm bath might help her pain and/or a warm face washer on her tummy to ease any pain. Poor little Charlie.

[Neptune]

Smithy - just wondering how little Charlie is doing this morning?

[barney]

neptune you just a sweet heart hun thanks for thinking of my girl when your a busy mummy your self.
charlie is doing a lot better today she even did another pooy through the night and it was a lot softer so this morning at 7 am i went off to the shop and got brown sugar and shes had a big drink of that in her water,then dh went to chat to the pharmacist and he has strongly recomended we stay on the thickened formula and he also gave him some coloxyl drops to put into the bottles, so im feeling lots beeter and i guess time will tell in the next 24hrs,i couldnt sleep last night just worrying about this as i just couldnt handle her having to do another one of them poos .
thanks so much for all your help and support hun truely means a lot

[Neptune]

Phew, glad she's better and to you, hope you get a bit more sleep tonight!