easter bunny is visiting E during her next nap (he's a clever cookie!) - we're out at my folks tomorrow and want her to have a fairly calm morning rather than one in which she trashes the egg she has to share with Daddy - so we're giving her the egg this arvo (if she stops running away and avoiding her nap!)
I'm back in Sydney, trying to keep up the momentum with study, and enjoying Adam at the same time.
Bit of a me post. Having a few probs with DH. I love him so much but he is an obsessive compulsive hoarder.....he has never been officially diagnosed, but I can vouch for the fact we live in a hovel and it is very unsafe and I'm afraid for when Adam can crawl or even be old enough to remember this. We are getting along okay mostly, except I keep breaking down crying which DH gets very upset with me and keeps saying that he is trying to fix it. It is just getting worse and I think that I will have to leave. It is the last thing I want to do, but I have tried everything and nothing works. He won't go and get help because he thinks he has a storage problem only!!! Don't know where to go, might have to get a lease on my own. I'm in the process of writing him a letter to get it all out, because he just shuts me out if I try to talk about it. I'm going to offer for us all to go and rest somewhere, but I know he won't come and he will see it as me abandoning him. I've lived here with him for 10 years and I know he won't do it.
Just a vent, I don't except anyone to come up with magical solutions. I don't want to break up our family, and I don't want to be on my won without him, but it's awful here.
awww neptune hun i just dont know what to say hunny but i just wanted to give you a big hug im soo not good at giving relationship advice as k me anything else and ive always got a comment but this im not too sure about,just know im thinking of you hunny and give adam sloppys for me and charlie .
oh neptune i remmber just before you had adam you were trying to overcome this big issue. big hugs for you love. I hope he reads your letter and takes it on board. chin up love. oxox
Thanks Smithy and Grub, your thoughts mean heaps. Letters have worked temporarily in the past, so it's worth a shot. After 13 years together though, I think he is overwhelmed but won't ask for help and anything he does to try and clean up is just an attempt to deflect me because he knows that the job is too big. All complicated by the fact that he feels that he needs to fic it himself therefore won't ask/pay for help. If I try to do anything proactive like paying for storage etc, he gives me the silent treatment for days (I do not cope well with this) and I just abandon plans. I think he needs a big shock, but I feel to weak to do it!
oh saph hun what cute boys you have and thank you sooo much for putting the link so i could see the pics too
i love them
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have a good time bg being easter bunny hun
awww neptune hun i just dont know what to say hunny but i just wanted to give you a big hug im soo not good at giving relationship advice as k me anything else and ive always got a comment
but this im not too sure about,just know im thinking of you hunny and give adam sloppys for me and charlie .
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